People hate when you show them how it feels to be treated the way they treat you.
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People sometimes tell you they will change when they won't and that they are sorry when they are not. Here are some of the signs of real repentance:
- The person will take full responsibility without blaming someone else or making excuses.
- The person will be self-motivated to do whatever it takes to change and to heal the relationship.
- The person will be able to hear and care about your concerns including your emotions about the problems without getting defensive. There will be genuine remorse for your pain.
- The person’s behavior will be different and if there is a slip to the old behavior, they will acknowledge it and work to heal the distrust that results.
You can watch how the person acts to see if the repentance is real.
H/T: Karla Downing
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July 9, 2014
Toxic people lie, triangulate, twist the truth, and then lie some more. After all, they have to keep up their appearances. Their flying monkeys wear blinders and stupidly do their bidding OR they adjust because they know if they go against the grain there will be hell to pay. This is not my problem.
Detaching doesn't mean you stuff your emotions. You face the reality of the situation, feel the emotions, and then recognize that you have choices. You recognize that even if the other person is making bad choices, you don't have to fix them. You recognize that even if the other person is upset, angry, or unhappy that you don't have to be. You recognize that everything the other person says and does isn't about you and doesn't have to affect you. You recognize that you can choose how to live your life. ~Karla Downing