January 30, 2013

Hate Me



Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you.

Old Saying

A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on it's shoes. ~Old Saying

Hat Tip: Michelle Malkin

January 29, 2013

Marcus Aurelius Quote

For though we are made especially for the sake of one another, still each of us has his own tasks. Otherwise another's faults would harm me, which God has not willed, in order that my happiness may not depend on another. ~Marcus Aurelius

How can I best help _______?

How can I best help _______? By not interfering when he gets into difficulties. I must detach myself from his shortcomings, neither making up for them nor criticizing them. Let me learn to play my own role, and leave him to his. If he fails in it, the failure is not mine, no matter what others may think or say about it.

I Have No Right

Of course I am obligated, by compassion and common humanity, to help others. But this does not mean I should do for them what they ought to do for themselves. I have no right to deprive anyone else of the challenge to meet his own responsibility.

Thomas à Kempis Quote

We would have much peace if we would not busy ourselves with the sayings and doings of others. ~Thomas à Kempis

January 27, 2013

Dirty Dishes

Sometimes dirty dishes are just dirty dishes.

Plato Quote

The beginning is the most important part of the work. ~Plato

Let no one deceive you

Let no one deceive you with empty words...(Ephesians 5:6)

My Father and Mother

Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me. ~Psalm 27:10

Silence is not always golden

Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. ~Proverbs 17:28

Joyce Meyer Quote

The best way to get along with people is to not expect them to be like you. ~Joyce Meyer 

January 26, 2013

Marital Relationships

In respectful, well-balanced marital relationships, we can't get away with the self-centeredness we don't even notice when we're alone. We are forced to listen better, share more, compromise fairly.

January 25, 2013

Bad Habits and Compulsions

Bad habits and compulsions cannot be conquered by determined resolutions or promising ourselves that we won't go on doing this or that. They cannot be rooted out~for what would fill that vacuum? They must be replaced~with their opposites. The secret is to substitute the positive for the negative~the I will for the I won't.

Happiness

Happiness is not the result of getting everything we want, but of doing something worthwhile.

January 24, 2013

Useless Arguments

Arguments are useless against a sickness.

Be True

This above all: to thine own self be true. ~William Shakespeare

I Have Rights

Today's Reminder: I have a right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on those feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from myself. They are part of me.

January 22, 2013

Home

This world is not my home. We have real hope - an eternal home. #GoodNews

January 21, 2013

Never be afraid to do what's right


I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character. I have a dream today. ~Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

January 19, 2013

Relationships come after the work

A relationship does not come along and cure our problems. Rather we cure our problems and thus become ready and able to have a relationship. The relationships come after the work.

Horst S. Quote

Relationships are not answers to problems. They are rewards for getting your life in order. ~Horst S.

January 18, 2013

Larry Crabb Quote

We have become committed to relieving the pain behind our problems rather than using our pain to wrestle more passionately with the character and purposes of God. Feeling better is more important than finding God. And worse, we assume that people who find God always feel better. ~Larry Crabb, Author of Finding God

Congratulations 2nd Quarter Winners!!! :)




Willie Robertson at Harding University



H/T: Willie Robertson at Harding University 11/28/2012

January 17, 2013

No Cavities, Hooray!

Guess who will be seeing the Orthodontist this summer? Yep, you guessed it - Fiona. No cavities for Fiona. She does a pretty good job brushing so I wasn't too surprised.

Kinsley enjoyed showing our dentist the big hole in her mouth. She has 4 empty spaces up top and 2 on the bottom. They were all very surprised to see how many teeth she has lost but assured me this wasn't unusual. No cavities for Kinsley.

Fiona and Kinsley enjoyed watching the dental hygienist clean and brush my teeth. The sensitivity I was feeling in the back of my mouth is from stress. No cavities for me. That's pretty typical for me not to have cavities. The stress part doesn't surprise or shock me, especially lately.

Ancient Chinese Proverb

If we do not change direction, we are likely to end up where we are headed. ~Ancient Chinese proverb

Our Family Loves Duck Dynasty! :)



We love that they end each episode with their family sitting around the dinner table and a prayer.

We love the life lessons they teach with each episode.

We love that they are very funny and make us laugh.

Where do I get my Happy Happy Happy T-shirt?

Duck Dynasty: Yes Please! :)

H/T: The Duck Dynasty Song

PS Ladies, great job on the Duck Dynasty Song!!

January 15, 2013

Worrying

Worrying will not protect me from the future. It will just keep me from living here and now.

January 14, 2013

Stones

The reason I can't get blood from a stone is not that the stone is unwilling to give it; stones don't have blood to give.

January 12, 2013

My Precious Relationships

My precious relationships are worth the extra effort. ♥

Psalm 12: Serving Size 1 Chapter

The ridiculously long-lasting flawless Word of God. #Goodstuff

Suspect Flattery

5. Suspect Flattery.

Compliments are lovely, especially when they are sincere. In contrast, flattery is extreme and appeals to our egos in unrealistic ways. It is the material of counterfeit charm, and nearly always involves an intent to manipulate. Manipulation through flattery is sometimes innocuous and sometimes sinister. Peek over your massaged ego and remember to suspect flattery.

H/T: The Sociopath Next Door - pg 158

That's what this bible verse got me thinking about:
"they flatter with their lips."

All of this makes me think an awful lot about flattery. Compliments - yes! Flattery - no! Do their words match their hearts? If I am crying then the answer is probably, NO.

The Rule of Threes

3. When considering a new relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has. Make the Rule of Threes your personal policy.

ONE lie, one broken promise, or a single neglected responsibility may be a misunderstanding instead. TWO may involve a serious mistake. But THREE lies says you're dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchpin of conscienceless behavior. Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can. Leaving, though it may be hard, will be easier now than later, and less costly.

Do not give your money, your work, your secrets, or your affection to a THREE-TIMER. Your valuable gifts will be wasted.

H/T: The Sociopath Next Door - pg 157.

That's what this bible verse got me thinking about:
"everyone lies to their neighbor."

All of this makes me think of this quote:
"Be careful who you open up to. Only a few people actually care, the rest just want to have something to gossip about."

All of that makes me think about my expectations. I seriously need to lower my expectations because I have allowed myself to be hurt and I'm tired of being hurt. I will no longer be surprised or shocked when people show me who they really are. I pray I have the courage and the strength to distance myself because there are a lot of great people out there in this world who are able to truly love.

Today's Bible Verse Got Me Thinking

Everyone lies to their neighbor; they flatter with their lips but harbor deception in their hearts. ~Psalm 12:2

Today's bible verse got me thinking about sociopaths and Martha Stout's 13 rules for dealing with sociopaths in everyday life, specifically #3 and #5.

I am the daughter of a righteous King!


January 11, 2013

Love is not a Point System


I feel like the luckiest person in the world because I've found a second family, and I am a very real part of it. In my new family, I am accepted just as I am. I never have to pretend, or wear a mask over my feelings. I can speak freely and know that my words won't leave the room.

In my new family, people empathize when I share my troubles. But instead of trying to solve my problems for me, they allow me the dignity to do so on my own. They do offer their experience, strength, and hope, and in this sharing I often hear just what I need to help me with a troublesome situation.

In my new family, LOVE is NOT a POINT SYSTEM. I don't have to earn love from others~it's given FREELY as a gift. I don't have to earn my place in the sun, I can just relax and be myself.

Today's Reminder

I found a new, second family, a family that helped me discover the me that had been hidden for so long, a family that will always be there for me. Today I will enjoy having a place where I really belong.

For me, XXX has proven to be a bittersweet legacy~bitter, because of the pain I suffered, and sweet, because if it weren't for that pain, I wouldn't have searched for and found a better way of living.

H/T: Courage to Change

PS I tweaked the phrasing just a bit so people could apply it accordingly.

You're Gonna Miss Me! :)

I've decided to give up social networking for lent this year. Yep, you heard me and you read it right here. Let me repeat myself: I. am. giving up. social networking. for lent.

Social Networking is coming OFF my smart phone, too. If I have something to share I will do it on my BLOGS. So, if you are connected to me that way, you'll still be able to communicate with me. Same goes for my e-mail address or text messaging on my mobile.

Social Networking will be deleted from my computer's bookmarks manager as well. There will be NO SOCIAL NETWORKING for me FOR lent. Blogging - yes, Social Networking - no. :)

I'm looking forward to this Lenten Season and have thought a lot about it for quite some time. I think this sacrifice fits perfectly with what I'm trying to accomplish. Putting it in writing and declaring it will hopefully keep me accountable.

Okay, on with my day!!! I have more good stuff to post - stay tuned!!! :)

False Pride or True Humility?

All deep, earnest thinking is but the intrepid effort of the soul to keep the open independence of her sea, while the wildest winds of heaven and earth conspire to cast her on the treacherous, slavish shore. ~Herman Melville

Building self-esteem takes introspection. But some of us get nervous when we start thinking about ourselves. Somehow it seems wrong to spend so much time digging around in the basements and attics of our personalities. We're afraid we're becoming self-centered, and we feel guilty about it. Haven't we always been taught to avoid selfishness?

But the search for self-esteem is more like a rescue mission than it is an ego trip. It isn't selfish to try to know and understand ourselves. And taking credit where credit is due shouldn't make us feel guilty any more than taking a paycheck at the end of a hard week. We deserve what we've earned. And all of us have earned more healthy self-regard than we've dared to claim.

We don't have to worry. Self-centeredness is no more like self-esteem than a flood is like a summer shower. One causes devastation and the other causes growth. If growth is our intention, examining our lives is not only allowable~it's an absolute necessity. And if introspection makes us uneasy, it's because we're not used to it, not because it's wrong.

Squeamishness about self-scrutiny may spring from my false pride instead of my true humility.

H/T: Believing In Myself

Pray for those who persecute you

"You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.'  But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,  that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. ~Matthew 5:43-45

I want more of this


January 10, 2013

Let the Law Work

When we cushion the fall of someone God is breaking, we're not loving that person. Let the law do its work so the gospel can do its work. ~Tullian Tchividjian

Multiplication Facts


Fiona is memorizing her multiplication facts. This will come in handy!

Tears of Joy


This made me cry. Fiona is the sweetest kid. She totally surprised me. Tears of joy on the way to bed. I Love her!!

January 9, 2013

Little Sponges

Kinsley recited all the Old Testament books in order tonight at Sparks. Fiona will recite hers at T&T pretty soon. I am amazed at how much they can retain at their young ages. I can’t even do that. #AWANA

In His Will is Our Peace

When dealing with impossible people or impossible situations, I don’t always know which way to turn or how to make a decision. I rejected God because I resented what I considered unfair punishment. Yet I found that “going it alone” made matters even worse. At a still later stage of desperation, I turned to Him again and placed my life and my will in His hands. Once I had surrendered, trusting Him completely, my burdens were lightened. I cannot profess to understand how such things happen; I want never to forget that He is ready to befriend me, but only to the degree that I trust Him.

Today's Reminder

If instead of trusting in God I trust only my own intelligence, my own strength and my own prudence, I will not find my way to Him and His help. He has offered me the gift of faith. In accepting it, I must put aside my own human will and trust in Him. Dante, in the Divine Comedy, wrote: "In His will is our peace."

Trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs)

H/T: One Day at a Time

PS I tweaked the phrasing just a bit so people could apply it accordingly.

Today My Best is Good Enough

How often I look outside myself for approval! The project at work is successful, but my good feelings depend on having that success acknowledged. The meal I fix at home is not as tasty when no one compliments the cook. I resent the favors I do for my children when they neglect to thank me.

We all need an occasional pat on the back. But when the applause of others becomes the reason for my behavior and necessary for me to feel satisfied, then I have given them power over me.

People may forget to notice the terrific things that I've done or may not be comfortable praising me. I don't have to take it personally. Self-pity and resentment are not my only options. If I can learn to evaluate my own actions and behavior and to value my own judgement, then the approval of others will be enjoyable, but no longer essential to my serenity.

Today's Reminder:

Just for today, I will appreciate myself. I will not look to others for approval; I will provide it for myself. I'll allow myself to recognize that I am doing the best I can. Today my best is good enough.

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. ~Carl Jung

H/T: Courage to Change

Honor, Truth and Loyalty

In thy face I see the map of honor, truth, and loyalty.
~William Shakespeare


What higher honor can we give but to say a person is "true blue," or "faithful to the end"? Loyalty is one of the most endearing and noble of all human qualities. How terribly sad when we place this priceless gift in the wrong hands!

Many people suffering from low self-esteem have developed faulty boundaries around who is trustworthy and who is not. Of course it isn't trusting itself that threatens self-esteem, but trusting untrustworthy people is always devastating. While everyone makes an honest misjudgment now and then, some of us go on making the same mistake with the same person OVER and OVER and OVER again. Such FOOLhardiness goes beyond the limits of loyalty.

Misplaced loyalty, especially if repeated, is evidence of willfulness rather than love. Because self-esteem cannot long endure the battering of betrayal, we need to get honest about what we're doing when offer ourselves up to people who have let us down. To fail to learn from our past mistakes is to take a hand in our own injury.

My integrity is always lost when I set myself up to be hurt.

H/T: Believing In Myself

January 8, 2013

10 On Tues: Back to the Grind

1. Kinsley lost another tooth this morning. That makes 4 empty spaces on top and 2 on the bottom. I told her not to rough-house during recess time.

2. God Speaks: A Study of the Book of Hebrews – It was great to be back today. It felt like the first day of school. I’m with the same group of wonderful ladies and may also have a friend joining me soon.

3. Institute Sunday: Why We Need Theology – Last Sunday we had a speaker come and deliver a message on why we need theology. I was so moved by the sermon that I decided it was time to reengage in classes again.

4. Fuel for Faith: An Important Class about Christian Theology – This class will be at 7 am on Sundays. When I told Don I was going to sign up for this class he laughed. He didn’t laugh at the class, he laughed at the time. He doesn’t think I will be able to handle taking an early morning class. It’s only for eight sessions. It’s not going to last forever. Yeah, I’ll show him!

5. Eat this Book: One Year Bible with Daily Psalm – I am right on track with this daily devotional. I love it! I’m determined to make my way through the bible starting in the Old Testament, Finishing up the New Testament again, and enjoying Psalms along the way. The more I dig in the better I am.

6. Psychology/Self Help Books – I’m still planning to pick up new books to read throughout the year. I haven’t made my next selection yet because I’m still trying to find my groove. Between 2, 3, 4, and 5 I’m doing a lot of reading as well as AWANA on Wednesday nights.

7. I need to hop back on the exercise train, too. I’ve reset my scale and started it over for 2013. My goal is to lose 30 lbs this year. I think I can do it.

8. Fiona is excelling with her reading. We are reading every day. She is also reading her bible almost every day. She has almost all of her multiplication facts memorized: 0-12. Not too shabby. They will be moving to division as well as some algebra. She has been obsessed with the weather science kit she got for Christmas, too.

9. Don and I went to see The Hobbit over the Christmas break. Loved it! We can’t wait to see the next installment. I’m not happy about the fact that the next movie doesn’t come out until December of 2013. What can we do? Hollywood is slow.

10. I am growing by leaps and bounds and it feels good. I’m gonna keep on keeping on and look forward to God showing me more of what I need to see.

Enjoy the Good

I pray to learn to enjoy the good that each day brings and not to be apprehensive about the future, which is in God's hands. ~One Day at a Time

T. A. McAloon Quote

Procrastination means paying twice the price when you eventually must act. ~T. A. McAloon

January 7, 2013

Not My Responsibility

Other adult human beings are not my responsibility, no matter how closely their lives may be intertwined with mine.

January 5, 2013

Confusing Compassion With Enabling

Please do not confuse compassion with enabling.

A more compassionate way to respond to those I love might be to allow them to face the consequences of their actions, even when it will cause them pain.

Am I trying to interfere with the natural consequences of a loved one's choices? Am I trying to do for someone what they could do for themselves? Am I doing what I think is best for me? Do I resent what I am doing? If so, is it really a loving choice? Sometimes the most compassionate thing I can do is to let others take responsibility for their behavior.

Today I will remember that I have choices, and so do other people. I will make the best choices I can and allow others in my life to do the same without interference.

I must learn to give those I love the right to make their own mistakes and recognize them as theirs alone.

Legal Oath Quote

The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. ~Legal Oath

January 4, 2013

Narcissists do not connect with reality

The Narcissist / Psychopath and Their Smear Campaign

Narcissists do not connect with reality: appearances are all that matter in their world. So, you can lay out your grievances to a narcissist in a letter to let him know what you think, but if tomorrow you encounter him and act as though none of it happened, he is perfectly satisfied.

#Truthful
#Accurate
#EyeOpening

Love keeps no record of wrongs

LOVE is PATIENT, LOVE is KIND. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ~1 Corinthians 13:4-5

January 3, 2013

Some of my goals for 2013

Last year I participated in the Joyce Meyer Promises for Your Everyday Life devotional. It's one you can have on your smart phone through the YouVersion Bible App. According the application it says that I'm 99.7% finished with this devotional. Now I know I did my best to read them every day but perhaps I forgot one? I guess I'll have to see if the app can catch me up.

In addition to that particular devotional there were four others that I read every single day: Streams In the Desert, Believing In Myself, and two Al-Anon Devotionals. I thoroughly enjoyed them all including the Streams In the Desert one.

This year on YouVersion I'm reading a one year bible plan called: Eat this Book, One Year Bible with Daily Psalm. What I like about this particular bible plan is that it starts from the beginning of the bible in the book of Genesis. Most one year plans skip around and have a little of the Old Testament, a little of the New Testament, a Psalm, and then a Proverb. I'm not a fan of that one so I decided to go with this one instead.

For some reason when I saw the "Eat this Book" part of the title I just kept thinking, "That's what I want to do! If I could, I would eat this book!" LOL :)

I know I won't be able to read every single day but I'm sure going to give it one heck of a try. On the days that it is impossible for me to read I will catch up and not give myself a hard time over missing a day. Sometimes life happens and you can't read.

The other thing that has me tickled pink is that my nine year old is going to do the bible plan with me. For the last two days she has curled up in the recliner next to me with her bible. We read quietly and every once in awhile she will ask me a question. She's asked if she can do this with me in the mornings before school. Who am I to tell her no? Of course she can read the bible with me! This warms my heart.

This year I put the Streams In the Desert devotional on the shelf to let it rest. I am; however, going to start the other three over again to see if I can pick up anything that I may have missed last year.

Remember that book I was reading called, "Disarming the Narcissist?" Well, I finished it. Boy was that book really good. I could identify with a lot of the book. My journey through Psychology has taught me an awful lot about why people do what they do and how to combat it. I think this year I will continue to dive into topics in Psychology. It's been a kind of awakening for me and it has strengthened my outlook and improved my self-esteem greatly!

I've also signed up for women's bible study at church. I have enjoyed getting together with other gals once a week and am always looking forward to learning something new about the bible. The neat thing about these particular bible studies is that our speaker is able to teach us about how people lived back and then, what some of their customs were, and why they did what they did. It is fascinating learning about the apostles and understanding what it is they were talking about. It's one thing to read the bible and try to apply it to your life but to be able to step back in time and learn about those people, their cultures, and how the laws worked back then sheds a light over the story and how things went down and just exactly how incredible our God truly is!

On the exercise front I'm going to keep at it. I've been taking a break but will be getting back into my routine tomorrow. I'm also starting my scale over again. I'm not in a hurry to lose the weight because I know slow and steady wins the race. I know that as I lose the weight it will stay off. It took time to put it on and it will take some time to take it off. I am determined to get it done.

Okay, now it's your turn. What are some of your goals for 2013? Don't be shy, leave me a comment or two.

I am writing my life story

I am writing my life story with every single today. Am I moving in a positive direction? If not, perhaps I need to make some changes. I can do nothing to change the past except stop repeating it in the present. ~Courage to Change

January 1, 2013

Reminding Myself Constantly

I can live my life only one day at a time. Sometimes I will have to take it one hour at a time, or one minute at a time, reminding myself constantly that I have authority over no life but my own.

His Compassions Never Fail

Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. ~Lamentaions 3:22-23