February 28, 2013

22



I don't know about you but I'm feeling 22...

Perfect People

A man who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything.

Faith Takes Practice

Faith takes practice.

Success Unexpected

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. ~Henry David Thoreau

I have every reason to be hopeful

I can't control my recovery. I can't force myself to let go any faster, nor insist upon serenity. But I can take small actions to remind myself that I am a willing participant in this process. I have every reason to be hopeful, for each step I take is a step toward living life more fully. Today I will do something nice for myself that I haven't made time for until now.

Is your self-esteem based on always being right?

To admit I have been in the wrong is but saying that I am wiser today than I was yesterday. ~Allan Picket

Is your self-esteem based on always being right? It may be if every error or misjudgment makes you terrible embarrassed or angry. If this is the case, a little attitude alteration may be just what you need to get back on track.

Depending on our attitude, being in the wrong may be seen as a chance to learn~an invitation to wisdom. Everyone makes mistakes. The question isn't whether or not we do, but how we handle it. If we use every mistake as a chance to get down on ourselves, our mistakes can teach us nothing. And every mistake thereafter will not serve as an opportunity to learn, either.

Think how different it would feel to simply acknowledge the error, pull up our socks, and forgive ourselves! Then, in the absence of all that disproportionate emotion, we could learn from the mistake. Perhaps in spite of the momentary embarrassment, we would find it was well worth the tumble.

When I exchange my mistakes for wisdom, I'm making a good trade. 

H/T: Believing In Myself

Hebrew Proverb

Pride is the mask of one's own faults. ~Hebrew Proverb

Stay Stay Stay



We love Taylor Swift!

We were listening to this song on her RED CD on the way to school this morning. I can't get the song out of my head. And now you won't be able to get the song out of your head! Ha!

You're Welcome!!!

February 27, 2013

His Way Is Perfect

As for God, his way is perfect: The Lord ’s word is flawless; he shields all who take refuge in him. ~Psalm 18:30 NIV

I forgot to share this one with you


One Mom's Battle is about one woman's journey divorcing a narcissist. I can't believe I forgot to mention this one yesterday. I admire Tina Swithin for being brave enough to document what has happened to her along the way. Her blog has been an encouragement and inspiration to me. She is also extremely knowledgeable in narcissistic personality disorder. If you guys aren't sure what "crazy-making" means take some time to read through her blog. Her ex husband is the epitome of crazy-making. There are a lot of people out there who hide behind a facade, another reminder that things are not always what they seem.

February 26, 2013

Tax Discrepancies

We got our tax appointment moved up so we aren't trying to file on my birthday. It was actually our tax lady's idea. Love her! She's brilliant! :)

What have I been doing this evening? I've been uncovering tax discrepancies. In one scenario a charitable organization listed us as giving less than what we actually gave. Then they tried to say that our January donation was really a December donation. Uh, no...I purposely stop giving mid December so I don't have to deal with these type of discrepancies. Do I need to just skip January donations and save them for February?

Same thing for my non-employee status for one company. They have me listed as earning less than what I actually made. Uh, no...I'm an honest person. I always tell our tax gal how much I made even if it's slightly more than what the company has me listed as making. Again, I have the proof to back up my numbers. These discrepancies don't belong to us.

What do I do in these scenarios? I contact them through e-mail and then follow-up first thing in the morning with a phone call. As far as waiting for corrected documentation, ha-ha-ha! Uh, I don't wait for corrected documentation. I have everything I need to prove our numbers and I absolutely will not keep our tax lady waiting...no way!

I have a few more papers to gather up and sift through and lots of shredding to do.  Normally I keep track of mileage on certain things but since some of these amounts don't normally add up to anything I've decided to skip the mileage.

It's crunch time. I'd like to have everything done and ready to go by Thursday evening. That sounds like a plan Stan! :)

Feeling Trapped?

The help I can give is to offer the thought that no one needs to feel trapped~that we do have choices in every situation.

I have a couple of great blogs to share


Emerging from Broken: from Surviving to Thriving on the Journey to Wholeness - This is one of my favorite blogs. I am a BIG fan of Darlene Ouimet. I have been reading her blog for months and like a good book I can't put it down. 

Today she wrote a post titled: Emotionally Unavailable Father; The Message of Passive Abuse. This post really resonated with me. When it comes to emotionally unavailable fathers I can totally relate in more ways than one.

It's like I told Darlene over on Emerging from Broken: Today, my boundaries are STRONG.

I am grateful for people like Paula of Paula's Pontifications and Darlene of Emerging from Broken for having the guts to share your experiences, strengths and hope with the rest of the world. You are doing a wonderful service because I am sure there are many people out there just like me who have at times felt quite alone and it's just great to know that there are people who have taken some very bad things that have happened and turned it around to inspire and provide hope for so many.

THANK YOU!!!

Unresolved Anger

Unresolved anger is the hidden source of low self-esteem. ~Bill Barlow

What we don't see, we can't understand. What we don't understand, we can't influence. And when that blind spot relates to the source of our self-esteem, the results can be devastating.

Hurt that has been denied, mislabeled, or unrecognized still exists, no matter how long ago we were wounded. In fact, such hurt~that is the hard core of all anger~is all the more potent for not being recognized or for being called something else. The trouble with burying something alive is that it will devour us from the inside. Buried does not necessarily mean dead.

At the core of much low self-esteem is just such a hard knot of anger. Anger over the way we were treated as children, rights that were denied, kindnesses that should have been there for us but were not. Love, encouragement, support, perhaps even the basic safety that everyone has a right to~none of these were to be had. Buried, that collection of hurts turned into anger and seeped out sideways. Sometimes the seeping turns into a flood. Often it becomes simply a prevailing state of being~we are just always angry, always hostile, always operating with a short fuse. That doesn't make us very attractive people. To say the least, we're not fun to be with. And so the anger over our long-ago hurt generates loneliness and rejection even today. Lest our tomorrows be affected as well, let us own up to our buried anger.

Hidden anger can kill me. I must recognize it and address it. 

H/T: Believing In Myself

February 25, 2013

Out of Control Comment Spam

The spam that this blog attracts is out-of-control. It's unreal how out-of-control it is. I still have it set up so that anyone can leave a comment, including anonymous; but, I had to turn on moderation of all comments as well as the captcha feature. That's the way it will have to be until these ridiculous spam-bots figure it out. If you leave a comment please be patient with me and now you know why.

Homework is almost done - Yay!

I completed chapter 23 today. I'm hoping to complete chapter 29 tomorrow and then 30 on Wednesday. They syllabus skips around a bit and that's okay with me because when the class is over I will be reading the chapters that were not covered in class. In fact, it's all I can do to soak up the entire book. It's that amazing!

This book is fueling my Christian faith like no other book has done. Seriously, if you don't have Bible Doctrine: Essential Teachings of the Christian Faith by Wayne Grudem in your home library..you may want to think about getting it..I promise you that it will totally fuel your faith.

Chapter 23 - Sanctification (Growth in Likeness to Christ) - How do we grow in Christian maturity? What are the blessings of Christian growth?

Chapter 29 - Gifts of the Holy Spirit (I): General Questions - What are spiritual gifts? How many are there? Have some gifts ceased? How do we seek and use spiritual gifts?

Chapter 30 - Gifts of the Holy Spirit (II): Specific Gifts - How should we understand and use specific spiritual gifts?

I also completed this week's homework and next week's homework for women's Bible study. We're studying the book of Hebrews. I love every bit of it. I just can't get enough of the Gospel.

You're probably wondering why I'm trying to get all of my homework done early. Well, it's because I want to be able to kick back a little towards the end of the week. I'm also trying to get all our papers together for our tax appointment. Yep, I'm the accountant in this house. It's up to me to make sure we have all our ducks in a row by the end of the week.

We are taking the kiddos to a concert on Friday. Toby Mac is expected to perform along with some other Christian musicians. My kids probably know all the words to all the songs that are played on K-Love; therefore, they will be jamming out at the concert on Friday.

My birthday is on Saturday. I have no idea what Don has planned for me. I guess I'll have to wait and see. And now you know why I'm trying to get all my homework done early!

The Hero's Way

It may take great courage to speak up to a browbeater after a long life of passivity.

(Snip)

The point is not whether we are afraid, but whether we do what needs to be done. That's the hero's way.

(Snip)

Any time I defy fear, I perform an act of heroism.

Franklin P. Jones Quote

Bravery is being the only one who knows you are afraid. ~Franklin P. Jones

February 24, 2013

It's all about balance

"Let me learn to keep peace with silence when it is not the right time to say what comes to mind."

". . . There is a time to keep silence and a time to speak"

(Ecclesiastes)

Sticks and Stones

"Sticks and stones can break my bones, but names can never hurt me." Unless we let them.

When Toxic People Explode

When the guilt of the toxic person explodes, I must realize that it is always aimed at those nearest, and often dearest. I want to remind myself that such outbursts only reveal the toxic person's own unhappiness.

Freedom From Despair

We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action. ~Freedom From Despair

Passive Passengers

Passive Passengers often get driven where they don't want to go. Are you a passive passenger?

Dwight D. Eisenhower Quote

Neither a wise man nor a brave man lies down on the tracks of history to wait for the train of the future to run over him. ~Dwight D. Eisenhower

February 23, 2013

Snow Days Snow Scenes


The birds were out in it Thursday afternoon.


After work Don decided to shovel up the driveway. 


Pretty Snow Butterfly


View of the neighborhood from the upstairs window.


Don is feeling less pain each and every day.


Today the birds were chirping and singing all morning.


The stray cat lives!

Each of us is a free individual

I will not permit myself to become emotionally involved in matters that should not be my concern. I will not interfere with the working out of another's difficulties, however dear and close we may be to each other. Detachment is essential to any healthy relationship between people. Each of us is a free individual, with neither one in control of the other.

"For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? Or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? As the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk."

(1st Corinthians)

Mahatma Gandhi Quote

My imperfections and failures are as much a blessing from God as my successes and my talents, and I lay them both at His feet. ~Mahatma Gandhi

February 22, 2013

Bringeth Forth Wisdom

The mouth of the just bringeth forth wisdom; the lips of the righteous know what is acceptable. ~Proverbs

I can turn to God

I don't have to make decisions alone. I can turn to God and ask for help.

Edward Young Quote

Procrastination is the thief of time. ~Edward Young

February 21, 2013

My Christian Theology Class

I Love the class!

We are on week #4 and for homework I am scheduled to read chapters 14, 15, & 16 out of Grudem's book.

Chapter 14 - The Person of Christ - How is Jesus fully God and fully man, yet one person?

Chapter 15 - The Atonement - Was it necessary for Christ to die? What really happened in the atonement? Did Christ descend to hell?

Chapter 16 - Resurrection and Ascension - What was Christ's resurrection body like? What is its significance for us? What happened to Christ when he ascended into heaven?

I should probably get started with the homework assignment if I plan to be finished before class.

Respiratory Infection

Kinsley has had fever on and off since she was sent home from school Tuesday. She took a turn for the worse yesterday but seems to be on track to getting better now that she has her antibiotic as well as the rest of her prescription medication our doctor wanted her to have.

One thing that I noticed through this process is that we need a new thermometer. The one we have is a digital under-the-tongue one and it had a completely different reading as compared to the doc's across-the-forehead and ear thermometers. Does anyone have a thermometer brand or type you'd like to recommend? I'm all ears and in this case eyes since we are communicating via the blog.

I would also like to say that I am getting super tired of pharmacists trying to interfere with the doctor's orders. I don't have time to debate you on your over-the-counter recommendations. One size does not fit all AND last time I checked you are NOT a doctor. Drippy sarcasm will not get you anywhere with me and certainly not when I have a sick kid in the van who needs her medication and her bed at HOME.

(I was going to share the whole story but am so exhausted from all that has happened I just don't have the energy. If you are a pharmacist reading this post I have some advice for you: please stop blaming the hospital, clinics, and doctors. Do your job and stop trying to interfere with the doctor/patient relationship. Take the initiative to pick up the phone and call the doctor/nurse if you need clarification. Don't get into it with Moms who have sick kids. We don't want to hear it!)

Can you imagine what healthcare will become once Obamacare is fully implemented?

We Love Snow Days!

We are under a winter snow warning until tomorrow. When this is all over we will have accumulated about 10 inches of snow. The snow hit the metro at about noontime.

I'm glad school was cancelled last night. I don't particularly care for the automated 5 am wakeup call. I'm almost positive school will be cancelled for tomorrow, too.

Mental Sobriety

Mental sobriety is a state of reasonableness, rational judgment, balance. It is emotional sickness when we continue to be apprehensive and anxious when we really have no reason to doubt.

"I will pray today and every day, for healthful, wholesome thinking, so that I may not generate trouble for myself."

It Takes Some Time

We punish ourselves far more than life ever punishes us. It takes some time before we realize that we have considerable power to change our lives, if we are willing to use it.

My Primary Spiritual Goal

Today I can be more tolerant of others views as I learn to take what I like and leave the rest. I don't have to let outside issues distract me from my primary spiritual goal. I'll keep the doors open, for I never know where I might find help.

Discouraging Past Experiences

The pursuit of any treasure requires risk. Little progress will be made if our first concern is to avoid disappointments. In spite of our discouraging past experiences, we need to try again.

Jewish Proverb

He that can't endure the bad will not live to see the good. ~Jewish Proverb

Building Others Up

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. ~Ephesians 4:29

February 20, 2013

Wordless Wed: Stray Cat








Mystery Fever

Kinsley can’t seem to catch a break.

Yesterday the school nurse called while I was at Bible study to say that Kinsley was in her office sick and with a temperature of 101.0 – Oh no!

(Can I just say that I LOVE the magnet school my kids go to. The nurse really went above and beyond yesterday to help us in our time of need and I will never forget her kindness – ever.)

Kinsley wasn’t sick throwing up. She doesn’t really have a runny nose. She did develop a bit of a cough but today she hasn’t been coughing all that much. She just has a fever.

This morning when I checked her temperature she was 102.6 – The school policy is that your child must be fever-free for 24 hours before they can return to school.

(You know, I wish more parents would adopt that same policy. We might not have as many sick kids if we were all on the same sick page. I know, I know, wishful thinking on my part.)

So…since Kinsley had 102.6 this morning…that means we can’t really send her back to school tomorrow. Tomorrow is class picture day! We’re due to get 10 inches of snow tomorrow; so, I’m hoping school will be called off for tomorrow. I’ve got my fingers crossed.

So far we’ve been alternating Kinsley between Advil and Tylenol. Her ears don’t hurt so we don’t believe she has an ear infection. Her throat doesn’t hurt and it doesn’t look swollen. We decided if she still has a fever at lunch time I will call the doc and get her in before this snow storm hits. Maybe the doctor will be able to help us figure out this mystery fever.

Right now Kinsley’s job is to relax, drink plenty of fluids, and take it easy. We set up our travel DVD player in her room and she is kicking back with some of her favorite movies. She doesn’t sound all that great so I have a feeling we’ll be headed to see the doctor soon.

None of us have experienced the flu this year or strep. (Knock-on-wood) I’d like to keep it that way but do hope Kinsley will make a comeback here soon. I don’t like it when my sweet kiddos are sick.

The Upanishads

Let one therefore keep the mind pure, for what a man thinks, that he becomes. ~The Upanishads

I Always Have Choices

I do not have to accept unacceptable behavior. I do not have to tolerate violence or abuse. I always have choices. I know what was not and is not acceptable. I know what to do about it, too.

February 19, 2013

10 On Tues: Valentine's Day











Our Valentine's Day Surprise





We loved coming home to find a surprise waiting for us on our front porch. The girls were super excited about it, too. These cookies were super yummy. They were so yummy we devoured them in less than 48 hours. Thank You, Ruwe Family!

No Two Alike




No Situation Is Hopeless

No situation is really hopeless.

All Growth Requires Change

All growth requires change and all change is a matter of adjustment. Perhaps we need to move forward or backward, lighten up or tighten up, let go of something old and reach out for something new. Perhaps we need to reconsider a negative attitude or be willing to do something we've never done before.

February 18, 2013

My Ultimate Contentment

Things may not work out as I want them to, but as my point of view changes, what I thought I wanted changes, too. My ultimate contentment does not depend on having things work out my way.

February 16, 2013

Season 4 Episode 2: Deception

My sister turned me on to Radiolab this week. For those of you who are not familiar with Radiolab, it's a radio show featured on NPR. She listened to one in particular this week called: DECEPTION.

SPOILER ALERT

This episode does not mention Sociopathy; however, it does zoom in on lies, liars, and lie catchers. I think you will LOVE it. It's very educational and mind-boggling. They make it very interesting to listen to. In face, you might be on the edge of your seat when you hear the different scenarios.

I had such a positive experience with this particular program that I decided to subscribe to the Radiolab podcast. Now whenever my iPod syncs I will get the latest programming and can listen while I'm cleaning house or exercising on my treadmill.

If you decide to listen to DECEPTION please leave a comment!

I Called The Police Yesterday


We are only as sick as our secrets. Until we let them out into the light, they keep us trapped. I don't have to face it alone. 

I've known a couple of con artists in my life. My dealings with two in particular take me back to my mid to late twenties. 

Yesterday, I got a phone call from a financial institution whose headquarters is in Utah. They were looking for this gal I used to know back in the day; so, you can imagine my surprise when they asked me if I knew where I could find her. 

The name she is using belongs to her ex-husband. I know for a fact she is either re-married or co-habituating with another man in another state somewhere on the east coast using a completely different last name. Her parents, who happen to be good and decent people, live across town from me. I don't keep in touch with them or vice versa. In fact, I have not seen or heard from any of them since the mid to almost late nineties. 

Apparently this financial institution got my name from HER. She took out a loan back in 2008 on a 2004 Honda Pilot and put MY NAME on the application as a contact or point of reference. Can you believe it? I can't! Well, after reading books like The Sociopath Next Door, I can believe it. 

Here's the kicker...

I've had NOTHING to do with this individual. I told the reps on the phone I would never have anything positive to say about this individual nor would I recommend anyone take a chance on her by offering her a loan on anything let alone a 2004 Honda Pilot. 

She took out this loan in 2008 and USED MY NAME as a point of reference. WOW!! 

The rep gave me her name and number. I knew she was legit because the name of the financial institution popped up on the caller I.D. I knew when I hung up the phone I would call them back to verify the individual and speak with a completely different rep. I'm extra careful that way. 

As soon as I hung up the phone I called the non-emergency police number and left a message for them to call me back. This is stealing, fraud, theft by deception, lying, etc. You don't use anyone's name without their permission to secure anything and certainly not a loan on a vehicle. 

It's no wonder these people are looking for her. She is a phony, a fake, a fraud: A CON ARTIST

I called the financial institution back and spoke to a completely different rep. Verified the first rep. Let them know that the police had been called and to notify their fraud department. Told the guy on the phone it would be in their best interest not to remove my name from the documentation until the proper authorities could investigate. The rep agreed. 

After talking to the 2nd rep for about 20 minutes I let him know where her parents could be located. They have a better chance at finding out where the con artist lives by speaking to them than they do me. Also, informed him they were good and decent people who might be able to help them figure out where to find her. Obviously there is a problem if this financial institution is trying to recover funds she secured using MY NAME. 

I don't do liars and cheats. A few years back when my husband and I were first married someone tried to secure a cell phone plan in my name using my information. The fraud department for that company figured out how to locate me and we got the police involved in that matter. Today, I have my credit reports being watched as well as special instructions when there is awkward activity connected to my name. 

This particular individual is a con artist to the max! Hopefully she realizes there is NO WAY she can use my name and get away with it. I can't wait for the police to call me back so we can drop the ball on this one. 

Ever been conned by a con artist?

Recovery is a Personal Decision

Bacchus hath drowned more men than Neptune. ~Thomas Fuller 

Statistics say that there are about 12 million alcoholics in this country; that's a lot of sick people! Experts have further estimated that every alcoholic's sickness has a major effect on the lives of at least 10 other people, including family, friends, and coworkers. Thus the "body count" of the afflicted and the affected goes up to 120 million~ten times as many people as live in New York or Los Angeles. 

Few of us reading these pages, or any pages, have been untouched by our own or someone else's problem drinking. As the epidemic rages on, it is well for us to remember that recovery is a personal decision. As much as we  hope and pray for the drinking to stop, we can't force anyone else to change. We can refuse sick alcoholics our money and our company~we often have to do this for our own survival~but the decision to change must originate with them, not us.

The most powerful tool we have is the example of our own lives. The only force we can bring to bear is the moral force of our own health, serenity, and compassion. We can turn on the light and put out the welcome mat, but mostly we have to get on with our own lives. 

My self-esteem hinges on my own battles, not someone else's. 

February 15, 2013

I Am Learning - Yes I Am!

The world is beginning to reveal its beauty which for a long time was obscured by my worrying over my troubles. I am learning to deal with them now, and what makes it easier is that I deal only with the problems that are mine. I am learning I cannot carry another's burdens, no matter how much I love them.

Aristotle Quote

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ~Aristotle

Confusion

Here are just a few snippets from today's devotional. These particular sentences stood out to me in a huge way. I never really looked at the state of confusion in this way. Afterward, I will share a quote that ties it all together.

"Confusion can be a gift from God."

"When I am feeling confused, I try to consider it grace. It may not be time for me to act."

"If a clear solution to a problem hasn't shown itself yet, I can trust that it will appear when the time is right."

Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content. ~Helen Keller

February 13, 2013

God doesn't use cookie cutters

God doesn't use cookie cutters.
One size doesn't fit all.
Every snowflake is different.
Every thumbprint is different.

Do you often take on someone else's negative frame of mind?


For me, detachment is relatively easy with casual friends, where I'm not very emotionally involved. I've noticed that when I am detached, I can listen to other people being critical or grumpy without being affected. But if members of my family act the same way, I often take on their negative frame of mind. My own behavior shows me that I have a choice about my response to other people's moods and attitudes. 

What I have learned by comparing these two situations is that detachment involves paying attention to my own mood before I have a chance to take on someone else's. Then I can simply see and hear negativity or anger, without becoming negative or angry. I don't have to have a bad day just because someone I love is struggling. This knowledge allows me to let everyone, including myself, feel whatever they feel without interference. 

Today's Reminder

If I pause for a moment before focusing on someone else's mood, I may find out that I have feelings of my own that deserve attention. I will look for those moments to check in with myself today. 

"We let go of our obsession with another's behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights, lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves." ~Detachment

Self-Esteem is Built on Truth

Self-esteem is built on truth.

February 12, 2013

10 On Tues: Fat Tuesday

1. Obama is a LIAR. That's pretty much the gist of the State of the Union. If you didn't watch it tonight then you didn't miss much. I live blogged it over on my political blog. You might have to hit your refresh button to get all the updates.

2. For lent I am giving up social networking. I mentioned that I would and I have. I have removed all of my computer bookmarks and did an application uninstall for all of it on my mobile phone.

3. When I say I'm giving up social networking that means I won't be participating in or looking at Facebook, Google+, Twitter, My Fitness Pal or Pinterest. Will I survive?

4. Denying myself is a big deal when it comes to social networking. I spend A LOT of time on it. I probably spend more time than I should on it. I can't help myself. I am a social being. I love being social and I love networking. Wish me luck, okay?

5. I went through all of the upcoming birthdays on Facebook and wrote people privately to wish them a happy birthday early because I knew I wouldn't be around to do it myself on the day of. Do you think that's over-the-top?

6. I haven't missed a single day in my daily bible reading. I am already in the book of Numbers. Boy am I glad Jesus redeemed me because if I had to follow all those rules in the Old Testament Law I would have been dead by now.

7. The theology class I'm taking on Bible Doctrine is fascinating. I LOVE it! I've been to two classes and hope to complete all of them. I'd like to try for the class certificate. I have 3 chapters to read this week for homework and I haven't started reading them yet. I will get started tomorrow after I take the kiddos to school.

8. I'm really enjoying our study in the book of Hebrews. I am learning so much this semester. Our teacher is phenomenal. Hebrews is not an easy book to follow and she has this way of breaking it down. By the grace of God my faith is growing by leaps and bounds this semester. I Love Women's Bible study at my church. 

9. Our washing machine broke down this week. We do not want to pay to replace the motor again. We are going to buy a new washer on Thursday. I can tell you it will not be a front loader. I might tell you why but that will be for another post. I can tell you it will have the biggest drum we can find. In the meantime our laundry is piling up. Hopefully we won't run out of clean towels before we get our new appliance. 

10. I'm glad I didn't give up chocolate for lent. Last year I gave up sweets, fast food, nuts (figurative & literal), and did my best to eat clean. I didn't exercise and still managed to lose 10 lbs. This year in addition to giving up social networking I'd like to plan to work on my fitness daily and see if I can make that butterfly move on the chart at the top of this blog. I'd like to lose 10 lbs during lent again this year. Will I do it?

Deny Yourself

Then he called the crowd to him along with his disciples and said: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. ~Mark 8:34

February 11, 2013

YOU ARE ♥



I heard this song on the radio when I was coming home from dropping my kiddos off at school. This song sums it all up for me. What a great song. What a great message.

February 10, 2013

To Absorb New Ideas:

To absorb new ideas, I keep my lips closed and my ears open. I find this gives me a new perspective on my problems, so solutions come more easily.

Theodore Roosevelt Quote

Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
~Theodore Roosevelt

Feelings have memory but no conscience

At times, although one is perfectly in the right, one's legs tremble. At other times, although one is completely in the wrong, birds sing in one's soul. ~V. V. Rozanov

In many ways, human beings are perverse creatures. Some good behaviors~like apologizing~may give us bad feelings. Likewise some very bad behaviors~like telling someone off~may make us feel very good indeed. That's why we can't allow our feelings to dictate our behavior.

Of course it's important to identify our feelings. Feelings tell us a great many things. A big part of emotional health is coming to understand and respect how we feel. But too often feelings are blind guides to what is right or wrong.

Because feelings are habits, they wind around old behaviors like iron filings around a magnet. Anything we do often enough we will come to feel comfortable doing. The worrier is comfortable worrying; the workaholic, working: and the liar, lying. But no matter how comfortable we feel, it doesn't necessarily follow that these behaviors will lead to a full spiritual life based on positive self-esteem. It's important to know how we feel. But it's even more important to know that our feelings have memory but no conscience.

As I practice healthy behaviors, my feelings will follow along.

H/T: Believing In Myself

February 9, 2013

#Trust


Hans Hofmann Quote

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak. ~Hans Hofmann

Keep It Simple

If I am overwhelmed, I may be trying to do too much. Today I will try to "Keep it simple."

Attitude Check

Answering the following questions will give us a quick "attitude check."

1.  Do I see life as challenging and interesting, or do I see it as a painful struggle that must be endured?

2.  Do I actively take steps to promote  my own wellbeing, or do I passively wait for someone else to solve my problems?

3.  Am I truly open to new ideas, or do I refuse to let go of old, familiar ways of thinking?

4.  Do I make my own decisions, or do I allow other people to direct the course of my life?

5.  Do I live comfortably in the present, or do I fear the future and bemoan the past?

6.  Do I accept the imperfections of myself and others, or am I often upset and irritated by human imperfection?

Elizabeth Bowen Quote

If you look at life one way, there is always cause for alarm. ~Elizabeth Bowen

A Companion of Fools

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. ~Proverbs 13:20

February 8, 2013

A New Way of Thinking

I pray to be led into a new way of thinking about the difficulties I have to face. A new point of view will put them into perspective and reduce them to a manageable size. I pray especially to resist exaggerating my troubles until they overwhelm me.

Oscar Wilde Quote

To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. ~Oscar Wilde

To Myself - Yep!

It is unrealistic to expect everyone to like me. With such an expectation, I set myself up to fail and give myself an excuse to blame that failure on others. I can't change other people, but I can change my own attitudes. I can let go of my rules about how others should feel about me. When I am disappointed in another's response, I can make an extra effort to be kind, warm, and loving to myself. I am loveable just the way I am.

In My Own Heart

There is a sanctuary in my own heart.

Pearl Buck Quote

Inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and that is where I renew my springs that never dry up. ~Pearl Buck

February 7, 2013

Medicine and Perspective

Sharing experience, strength and hope acts like a medicine on the spirit, giving us a perspective on ourselves and our woes.

Samuel Johnson Quote

To improve the golden moment of opportunity, and catch the good that is within our reach, is the great art of life. ~Samuel Johnson

February 6, 2013

The Good Things

Let me never forget to be grateful for the GOOD things in my life.

Troubles are Opportunities

Troubles are opportunities to grow, to make us BETTER, not bitter.

To Be Happy

I don't have to approve of the world's ways to accept them; I don't have to have my own way to be happy.

Maurice Maeterlinck Quote

We possess only the happiness we are able to understand. ~Maurice Maeterlinck

Vindication

Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun. ~Psalm 37:5-6

The Law and the Prophets

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. ~Matthew 7:12

February 5, 2013

Ho Hey!



I belong with you, you belong with me...

I Love my husband.

Compulsive Impossible People

Let me learn to understand myself first; that will occupy me so fully that I will have no time nor thought to analyze and criticize the compulsive impossible people.

False Humility is as Hampering as Arrogance

It is just as self-deceptive to discount what is good in us as to justify what is not. This is false humility, which is as hampering as arrogance! The purpose of examining our characters~with as much honesty and detachment as possible~is not to exaggerate guilt for what we lack, but to use the good to overcome the faults.

The Best Help

Just being there for someone else is often the best help.

Someone with Low Self-Esteem

By far the best thing we can offer someone with low self-esteem is our own steady friendship.

Sympathy

Sympathy is a supporting atmosphere, and in it we unfold easily and well. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

February 4, 2013

I have a cleaning question

Don is back to work today. I don't know if I should applaud him or chastise him. He is a strong, determined, loyal, but stubborn man. Sometimes you just have to kick back and stay out of it. At least by this point he is on OTC pain regiment during the day and one prescription pain pill at night. I don't know how he does it.

Poor Kinsley is home from school today. Last night she had one shower, two baths, and lots of puke coming out of both ends. It was so bad I had to trash her underwear and PJ pants. Lets face it, there are some things we are not required to clean. There is a mountain of laundering to do and I have broken out the bleach. Today she is feeling a little better and so far there has been no puke from either end.

Today I am keeping my tasks reasonable. I need to get to the grocery store and will save that for when I pick Fiona up from school. I have more high fiber items to buy for Don and some tummy soothing items for Kinsley. So far Fiona and I are fine and I'd like it to stay that way.

I have been washing my hands so much my knuckles are bleeding. I've got to do something about that. My treadmill has been calling out to me. My numbers are going in the wrong direction. I have tons of reading to do. I am good! I will see this as a challenge and tackle each item one at a time. That includes disinfecting and scrubbing all of my bathrooms, too.

Does anyone have a cleaning formula that will cut through the grime on our shower floor in the master bath?

Self-Deception

"If we say that we have no fault, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us." ~1st John 

The Real Enemy is Self-Deception

How often we think that the trials we have to face were caused by outside forces, by fate, or by God. We're only too ready to look outside ourselves for the reasons for our afflictions, when the real enemy is self-deception. We may be poor, deprived of the necessities of life, frustrated in the things we think we want to do. It is only too easy to blame all these things on other people. Yet however difficult they may make our lives, we could do a great deal to offset this damage by turning our examination and criticism on ourselves, and taking energetic steps to correct what we think and do.

February 3, 2013

Do you think she will notice?

My 9 year old can't seem to separate her underwear from her jeans before tossing them into the laundry basket. Maybe I should wash, dry, and hang them that way. Do you think she will notice?

I'm Taking a Christian Theology Class!

This book along with the class I'm taking ought to keep me busy for the next 8 weeks. This is what got me up at 5:45 am. I may have to work on keeping this schedule. Yes, I'm still participating in Women's bible study, too!

I'm not sure how this post will turn out because I am publishing from my phone. This will be the first time I have shared a photo on this blog from my phone, too.

Mark Twain Quote

There are no grades of vanity, there are only grades of ability in concealing it. ~Mark Twain

Brokenhearted

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ~Psalm 34:18

February 2, 2013

I'm blogging from my phone

Yep, there's an app for that and it's pretty convenient. I've been so busy these last few days that I haven't even had time to turn on my laptop.

The girls spent the night at Grandma and Grandpa's house last night. They LOVED it. Fiona was so excited when she found out Thursday night that she woke up bright and early at 7:00 am Friday morning before school.

Wednesday we had a snow day. The girls were such good girls all day. I had not anticipated they would not be in school. I had them pack up their backpacks with their DS games, books, and writing tablets. Off to the hospital we went because their Daddy had to have surgery.

We waited, waited, and waited some more in the waiting room. Then around lunch time I took the girls to eat in the hospital cafeteria. They thought it was pretty cool to get to eat lunch with all the doctors, nurses, and administrative personnel.

Poor Don. We finally got him home around 3:30 pm. He was in a lot of pain. Thankfully they sent us home with plenty of pain pills. Today is day #3 not including Wednesday and he is still in a lot of pain. But, I will say that his appetite is improving so I think he is getting better day by day.

Don is a very private person so I won't mention what his surgery was for or provide specifics because he'd rather I don't. So I won't. But, please pray for him because he is in quite a bit of pain. They say it will take 4 to 6 weeks for him to completely heal. It's a good thing he works from home!!

Blogging from this phone app is actually not all that bad. It might make it easier for me to blog on the go or during those times I really don't feel like turning my computer on. 

Well, that's all for now. Until next time...I always have quotes to share so check back soon!?? Does anyone even read my blog any more!??