January 12, 2013

Suspect Flattery

5. Suspect Flattery.

Compliments are lovely, especially when they are sincere. In contrast, flattery is extreme and appeals to our egos in unrealistic ways. It is the material of counterfeit charm, and nearly always involves an intent to manipulate. Manipulation through flattery is sometimes innocuous and sometimes sinister. Peek over your massaged ego and remember to suspect flattery.

H/T: The Sociopath Next Door - pg 158

That's what this bible verse got me thinking about:
"they flatter with their lips."

All of this makes me think an awful lot about flattery. Compliments - yes! Flattery - no! Do their words match their hearts? If I am crying then the answer is probably, NO.

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