December 31, 2012

Well, I Did It!

Well, I did it. I finished ALL five daily devotionals for 2012. They are Streams In the Desert by L. B. Cowman, Update by Jim Reimann – Believing In Myself by Earnie Larsen & Carol Hegarty - Courage to Change, One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon – and Joyce Meyer, Promises for Your Everyday Life on YouVersion Bible App for the smart phone. Some of these daily devotionals I started reading back in 1992 but never finished them. Today I realize I was never supposed to finish them until now.

Last year my new year’s resolution was to lower my expectations. The lesson in lowering my expectations is the acceptance that other people are going to do what they’re going to do and I am powerless over that. But, the freedom of it is knowing I don’t have to subject myself to someone else’s bad behavior.

Every day I wake up and tell myself that I am the daughter of a Righteous King. After that, I tell myself what other people say about me is none of my business. At the end of the day God knows the truth and He knows my heart and that’s all that matters.

What’s my new year’s resolution this year? Well, I think this year I’m going to work on using my laptop without the mouse. It will be a lot better for my right hand in the long run.

Thanks for sharing I Am Pooped with me Friends and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

One day at a time

Again I resolve to live the coming year one day at a time, easing myself of the burdens of the past and the uncertainties of the future.

No time for futile regrets

If I have regrets for errors or omissions, I will dismiss them. The new year which lies before me has no time for futile regrets. I will live just one day at a time, making each one better than the last, as I grow in confidence and faith.

December 30, 2012

Ready to shut the door on 2012

I would not mind our Gulf Coast trip turning into an annual family vacation. We had so much fun last year that I'm craving it again for 2013. Maybe we will find an affordable rental so we can stay gone longer. I am looking forward to taking some classes we have discussed but have had to put off due to this or that. I'm getting to a place where this or that is becoming more of a nuisance I'm unwilling to negotiate with. Boy am I ready to shut the door on 2012 and deadbolt it.

Courage To Change


The unpleasant things other people say or do have no power to destroy my peace of mind or ruin my day unless I permit it. Do I allow myself to respond to the words of a sick person as if they were the ultimate truth?

Charles H. Spurgeon Quote

"Groans that words cannot express" (Rom. 8:26) are often prayers that God cannot refuse. ~Charles H. Spurgeon

December 28, 2012

Yucky and Shocking

No matter how yucky I am feeling or how shocking life seems I will rejoice in the Lord. (Philippians 4:4) #TrueStory

December 27, 2012

Émile Zola Quote

The artist is nothing without the gift, but the gift is nothing without work. ~Émile Zola

Think For Yourself

Think for yourself and let others enjoy the privilege of doing so too. ~Voltaire

December 26, 2012

But God

Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but God pondereth the hearts. (Proverbs)

December 24, 2012

Merry Christmas Everyone!

Today, I will turn to simple things: Cleaning the house, catching up laundry, wrapping presents, manicures for the girls, cooking Spanakopita, Christmas Eve Services at Church, laying out cookies and milk for Santa Clause, and turning on the 24 hour marathon of A Christmas Story on TNT. Just to name of few. I may even do some reading. I have in my possession the Treasury of Christmas Stories given to me by my Grandmother as a Christmas present back in 1977. I was the same age as Kinsley and I’m sure we will love it today as much as I loved reading it back then. Merry Christmas Everyone!

The secret history of our enemies

If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility. ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Healing Medicine for the Troubled

There is an easier way to rid ourselves of painful thoughts and imaginings than by following the philosopher's advice: "Empty your mind . . . ." It is to replace worry and distress with something pleasant.

When I do this, I am not running away from my troubles, but clearing my mind of confusion, so I will be better able to make decisions when the time comes to do so.

Constant dwelling on disturbing matters never solves anything; trying to follow the convolutions of a problem only makes me lose all sense of proportion about it.

Today's Reminder

I will turn to simple things: the contemplation of a tree or a cloud; writing a long-deferred letter or making something, perhaps a bird-house, a rag doll or a cake. I will deliberately lose myself in the new preoccupation so that when I come back from it, my thoughts will be freshened and ready to deal clearly with what I have to face.

"A change of scene, a new interest, a creative undertaking~these are healing medicine for the troubled."

P E A C E

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today's Reminder

Today, if I am troubled, I will assess the situation and consider my options. I will not wait for anyone else to change, but will focus on myself and the part I can play in making the situation a better one.

December 23, 2012

A little Holiday Cheer from 2010! :)


Watch Yourself


Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Martin Luther King Quote

Everything that we see is a shadow cast by that which we do not see. ~Martin Luther King Jr., The Measure of a Man

Denial

Denial is the act of pulling down the shades in the search for light. ~Dr. James Rogel

December 22, 2012

LORD I can not but YOU can


Sunny snow day home from school



The kids came home, tore through house, slammed on their snow boots, threw on their snow pants, grabbed their sleds and were out the door lickety split. That was the day we had our winter storm weather advisory before it turned into a blizzard advisory. The kids were outside with the neighborhood kids for about two hours before they came inside for the night. Who knew snow and sledding would keep them occupied outside for so long? The next day was a sunny snow day home from school. What were my kids doing? Having fun outside playing in the snow! What else would they be doing on a sunny snow day home from school?

My Toothless Child


All I want for Christmas is my five front teeth? Yep, she did it again folks. She lost another tooth in the front. There are three empty holes in a row up top, one on the bottom and another two teeth over on the bottom. Believe it or not, she has another tooth loose on the bottom on the other side of the one she just lost. I'm sure the tooth fairy is extra tired working over time trying to keep up with all of Kinsley's missing teeth. She has to be the cutest toothless child ever!

I'm dreaming of a white Christmas








I was dreaming of a white Christmas and it looks like we get to have one here in Omaha! This past week we were under a winter weather storm advisory which turned into a blizzard warning. We wound up with 9 inches of snow and about 30,000 people out of power. Fortunately, we were not one of those who lost power. As far as I can tell I think everyone has their power back. You can see the blizzard part in the yellowish picture. That evening it looked like dim daylight late at night. We also had thunder snow. Oh, you haven't heard of thunder snow? Well, you may have to Google it so you will know what it is because we had it! First there was lightning, then there was thunder, and all of this went down while the snow was blowing around. We might get a little more snow tomorrow night. I'm not complaining! We have power and we wanted a white Christmas. Honestly, I think Christmas with snow is one of the most beautiful of all Christmases.

2nd Quarter Writing Contest Winner


Fiona got 2nd place for the 2nd quarter writing contest at her magnet school. Way to go Fiona! Congratulations! You Rock Girlfriend!

Beautiful Holiday Season


Wishing you a Beautiful 
Holiday Season

Let It Snow!


Have a Merry Christmas
and a Happy New Year!

Wonderful Christmas


With warmest wishes 
for a wonderful 
Christmas.

Warmest thoughts and best wishes


Warmest thoughts and best wishes
for a wonderful holiday
and a very Happy New Year

I can't wait to see The Hobbit



I watched this last night and it made me very happy.

True Humility


True humility accepts both kinds of truths about ourselves~both the flattering and the unflattering.

Jesus and I

I will give him . . . the land he set his feet on, because he followed the LORD wholeheartedly. (Deuteronomy 1:36)

Every difficult task that comes across your path~every one that you would rather not do, that will take the most effort, cause the most pain, and be the greatest struggle~brings a blessing with it. And refusing to do it regardless of the personal cost is to miss the blessing.

Every difficult stretch of road on which you see the Master's footprints and along which He calls you to follow Him leads unquestionably to blessings. And they are blessings you will never receive unless you travel the steep and thorny path.

Every battlefield you encounter, where you are required to draw your sword and fight the enemy, has the possibility of victory that will prove to be a rich blessing to your life. And every heavy burden you are called upon to lift hides within itself a miraculous secret of strength. ~J.R. Miller

I cannot do it alone
The waves surge fast and high,
And the fogs close all around,
The light goes out in the sky;
But I know that we two
Will win in the end,
Jesus and I.

Cowardly, wayward, and weak,
I change with the changing sky;
Today so eager and bright,
Tomorrow too weak to try;
But He never gives in,
So we two will win,
Jesus and I.

I could not guide it myself,
My boat on life's wild sea;
There's One who sits by my side,
Who pulls and steers with me.
And I know that we two
Will safe enter port,
Jesus and I.


H/T: Streams In the Desert

Thick and Dreadful Darkness

A thick and dreadful darkness came over him. (Genesis 15:12)

In this scripture passage, the sun had finally gone down, and the eastern night had swiftly cast its heavy veil over the entire scene. Worn out by the mental conflict, and the exertion and the care of the day, Abraham "fell into a deep sleep" (v.12). During his sleep, his soul was oppressed with "a thick and dreadful darkness," which seemed to smother him and felt like a nightmare in his heart.

Do you have an understanding of the horror of that kind of darkness? Have you ever experienced a terrible sorrow that seems difficult to reconcile with God's perfect love~a sorrow that comes crashing down upon you, wrings from your soul its peaceful rest in the grace of God, and casts it into a sea of darkness that is unlit by even one ray of hope? Have you experienced a sorrow caused by unkindness, when others cruelly mistreat your trusting heart, and you even begin to wonder if there is really a God above who sees what is happening yet continues to allow it? If you know this kind of sorrow, then you know something of this "thick and dreadful darkness."

Human life is made of brightness and gloom, shadows and sunshine, and dark clouds followed by brilliant rays of light. Yet through it all, God's divine justice is accomplishing His plan, affecting and disciplining each individual soul.

Dear friend, if you are filled with fear of the "thick and dreadful darkness" because of God's dealings with humankind, learn to trust His infallible wisdom, for it is equal to His unchanging justice. And know that He who endured the "dreadful darkness" of Calvary and the feeling of having been forsaken on the cross is ready to accompany you "through the valley of the shadow of death" (Ps. 23:4) until you can see the sun shining on the other side.

May we realize that "we have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure" and that "it enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain" (Heb.6:19). And may we know that although it is unseen within His sanctuary, our anchor will be grounded and will never yield. It will hold firm until the day He returns, and then we too will follow it into the safe haven guaranteed to us in God's unchangeable Word. ~F.B. Meyer

The disciples thought that the angry sea separated them from Jesus. In fact, some of them thought something even worse~they thought that the trouble they were facing was a sign that He had forgotten them and did not care about them.

O dear friend, that is when your troubles can cause the most harm. The Devil comes and whispers to you, "God has forgotten you" or "God has forsaken you," and your unbelieving heart cries out, as Gideon once did, "If the LORD is with us, why has all this happened to us?" (Judge.6:13). God has allowed the difficulty to come upon you, in order to bring you closer to Himself. It has come not to separate you from Jesus but to cause you to cling to Him more faithfully, more firmly, and more simply. ~F.S. Webster

We should abandon ourselves to God more fully at those times when He seems to have abandoned us. Let us enjoy His light and comfort when it is His pleasure to give it to us, but may we not attach ourselves to His gifts. May we instead attach ourselves to Him, and when He plunges us into the night, where pure faith is required, may we still press on through the agonizing darkness.

Oh, for faith that brings the triumph
When defeat seems very near!
Oh, for faith that brings the triumph
Into victory's ringing cheer~
Faith triumphant; knowing not defeat or fear.
~Herbert Booth


H/T: Streams In the Desert

December 20, 2012

King Of Anything

Ironic



I forgot how much I love her music!

Narcissus



Thank you for taking me away from the center of the universe. Amen!

Bait and Switch Maneuvers

Bait and Switch Maneuvers: The narcissist's charm is an enticing lure, and an effective tool, as it may keep you from examining the potential costs of the relationship until you're hooked. Let's take a look at some specific examples of this subtle but classic bait and switch maneuver so that you can gain a clearer perspective on the dynamic in your own relationship with a narcissist.

The vanishing act. After promising you his unalloyed attention, he becomes unavailable. With no acknowledgment or contrition, he accuses you of being selfish and needy when you are upset about it.

The setup. Having solicited your ideas and input with seeming enthusiasm, he proceeds to assassinate your response and annihilate your self-esteem with demeaning criticisms.

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Seizing the opportunity to be your hero, he will be abundantly protective when others are unfair to you. But he will have no compunction about cutting you to the quick with his harsh and lordly tones if you dare to interrupt him or question his opinions.

Adding insult to injury. He will show up unexpectedly with a truckload of roses, making you feel disposed to forgive his cloddish behavior of the past few days. You reciprocate with acts of love and appreciation, but, ultimately, nothing is ever enough for his chasm of instability, leaving you grinding your teeth between guilt and exasperation. It's all about him again.

Devil's Advocate. Like the president of a debate club or a judge with gavel in hand, he invites you into a conversation that, if not an endless soliloquy, quickly becomes argumentative and highly competitive. No matter what your response~ignoring him, fighting back, pleading, or even giving in~he is impervious.

Do any of these maneuvers sound familiar? If all of them do, don't despair. Remember, the narcissist maintains very high, unrelenting standards for himself, and for those who orbit his stellar magnificence. Narcissists have an extremely high need for recognition, approval, control, victory, and acknowledgment of their extraordinariness. They have these needs because of a fiercely flowing inner current of shame, emotional loneliness, and mistrust. Self-righteous behavior is merely a plug in the emotional dam.

H/T: Disarming the Narcissist

That was then and this is now

That was then and this is now


I was often made to feel that I wasn't good enough when I was young, but that was just not true. I was only a child. I had no capacity to stand up for myself then. I was young and scared. What I'm experiencing now is the resonance of that schema. But I have choices now, and I have rights, too. I do not have to tolerate being treated this way by anyone anymore. 

Helping Himself

Is is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Good deed in a naughty world

How far that little candle throws his beams. So shines a good deed in a naughty world. ~Shakespeare

Love is not . . .

Love is patient and kind, Love is not jealous or boastful, it is not arrogant or rude, Love does not insist on its own way. ~The Bible

December 19, 2012

Better keep yourself clean and bright

Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world. ~George Bernard Shaw

Respect Yourself

In spite of all the complicated analysis of causes and cures, it all comes down to learning to like ourselves. Simple! Not surprisingly, we like ourselves when we behave in likable ways; we respect ourselves when our behavior is respectable; we honor our own honorable deeds. There's nothing confusing or complicated about it. Nor is there anything mysterious about feeling bad when we behave badly or feeling abused when we walk in the company of abusers. We learn to like ourselves when we do the things that boost our integrity and refrain from doing what damages it. The truth couldn't be plainer and neither could the implication. Any action we take, no matter how small, either adds to or diminishes our treasure.

H/T: Believing In Myself

Martin H. Fischer Quote

Knowledge is the process of piling up facts. Wisdom lies in their simplification. ~Martin H. Fischer

Jesus Is Not a Pharisee

God desires to heal His people from past hurts caused by rejection. He wants you to know He will never reject you. He says in Matthew 11:28, "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest" (NKJV). This is referring to those who are laboring at trying to be perfect and then beating themselves down with guilty feelings when they fail.

Jesus was talking to the people who were trying to live under the laws of the Pharisees. It takes a lot to please a Pharisee, and they're still around today. I'm sure you know one, someone who conveys to you the message, "I'll accept you if you perform perfectly and please me. I'll reject you and withhold my love if you don't."

Jesus isn't a Pharisee. He says in John 3:18 that he who believes in Him will never be rejected. Believe in Him, love Him, cling to Him, rely on Him and trust Him. Then you can truly enter in to the joy of the abundant life He offers you.

Prayer Starter: God, thank You for loving me and always accepting me. I believe in You, love You, trust You and rely on You with all that is within me.

H/T: Joyce Meyer: Promises for Your Everyday Life - a Daily Devotional on YouVersion Bible App

December 18, 2012

Warmth and Happiness


May your home be filled 
with warmth and happiness
during the holidays
and all through the year.

This Beautiful Season


Thinking Of You During This Beautiful Season

The Joy of the Season


May the joy of this holiday season 
fill your home with happiness.

10 On Tues: Ode To Princess F














Another Improvement - Yay!!!


What is and what should never be

Wendy Behary Quote

Almost no one can push people's buttons like the narcissist can. ~Wendy T. Behary

Jealousy Is Not Love

Love promotes the freedom of the other; jealousy limits freedom.

No one can "belong" to anyone else

Jealousy is not and never was a sign of love; it's a sign of immature insecurity. Grown ups need to get their facts straight about what does and does not signify a loving relationship. As adults, both men and women may confuse possessiveness with love. But in truth no one can "belong" to anyone else. Chronic suspiciousness is a character flaw, not a compliment. Obsession with someone else's coming and goings is a poor substitute for devotion.

H/T: Believing In Myself

Havelock Ellis Quote

Jealousy: that dragon which slays love under the pretense of keeping it alive. ~Havelock Ellis

December 17, 2012

Merry Christmas


He is the Lord 
of the heavens and
the earth!

JESUS
the Savior of our souls

What's With Me?

What's with me? Am I simply a masochist? How can I allow myself to be so fooled? Why am I so drawn to these difficult people? Am I being punished? How do these trying people always find me? Do I have "doormat" written on my forehead? Why can't I just speak up and tell him to...? It can be difficult to assess toxic interactions during the early phase of any relationship, particularly if you are only in the narcissist's presence form time to time. Even when it seems apparent that he is "a bit obnoxious," you may have grown up with the message "too bad, just deal with it" implanted in your brain, especially if the narcissist in your life happens to be an authority figure, such as a boss, supervisor, professor, or even a romantic partner. You are not foolish, nor are you being punished, and you are definitely not sending self-defeating signals from your brow. The narcissist's charm and wit can be very hypnotizing, encouraging you to be forgiving when he is out of line. You are drawn to this person because he is attractive in some ways. It can be difficult to speak up, because the costs may appear too great, and if you've been in the relationship for a while, you've been well trained in the art of diplomacy~or, rather, biting your tongue.

H/T: Disarming the Narcissist

William Shakespeare Quote

And since you know you cannot see yourself,
so well as by reflection, I, your glass,
will modestly discover to yourself,
that of yourself which you yet know not of.
~William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar

Only what is good for me

I pray that I may start each new day with a clean blackboard and write upon it only what is good for me. ~One day at a time

William W. Watt Quote

Do not put your faith in what statistics say until you have carefully considered what they do not say. ~William W. Watt

I saw a quote I agree with

Psychos come in all shapes and sizes carrying different weapons.

December 16, 2012

Gene Fowler Quote

Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves.
~Gene Fowler

December 14, 2012

Pray for Connecticut


Be merciful to me, O LORD, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and my body with grief. ~Psalm 31:9 You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. ~Psalm 32:7 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ~Psalm 34:18 May your unfailing love be my comfort ~Psalm 119:76 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. ~Psalm 147:3 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted ~Matthew 5:9 In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express. ~Romans 8:26 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ~Romans 8:38-39 He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away. ~Revelation 21:4

December 13, 2012

Best Wishes


Best wishes for a very happy holiday season.

Some people need super glue


The Four R's

There are things that are unforgivable. You should not forgive someone until they have earned the potential for forgiveness. How do they earn it? They need to follow the four “R’s”:

1) Responsibility — The perpetrator needs to take complete and absolute responsibility for what they've done. They should not blame it on anyone else, their childhood, bullying, or moon spots. If it was their own decision, they must take full responsibility for having made that decision without justification or excuses.

2) Remorse — The perpetrator must be truly remorseful. Most people feel bad because they were caught or had to suffer consequences, however, that’s not true remorse. The only problem with this step is that no other human being can tell for certain if another is truly remorseful. People can say it, but we don’t really know what’s in their hearts.

3) Repair — The perpetrator must do whatever it takes to repair the damage. Some damage cannot be repaired. I remember reading a story about a driver who plowed into a group of young people riding their bicycles. One biker, who was a superior human being and an athlete, had his arms, legs, and just about every rib broken, and his brain would never be the same again. People wanted the driver to be forgiven after creating a lifetime of torture for this young man. To that, I say, “No!”

4) Repetition – The perpetrator must take whatever steps needed so that this action is never repeated.

H/T: Not Everything is Forgivable by Dr. Laura

December 12, 2012

Have A Blessed Christmas


May His presence abide with you today and in the new year. 

Have A Blessed Christmas

"Through the tender mercy of our God; whereby the Dayspring from on high hath visited us, to give light to them that sit in darkness...to guide our feet into the way of peace." 
Luke 1:78, 79 KJV

A Snow Day


A Very Special 12-12-12



Happy Birthday to our sweet Fiona who has a kind and caring spirit! ♥

Crafting Fun At Grandma's House


I'm a little late sharing all our cool crafts the kids did over at Grandma's house. These attractive creatures are painted vegetable gourds with felt and googly eyes strategically hot glued. Aren't they cute?


This was another fun craft done at Grandma's house with some pre-cut cement blocks. They are quiet heavy and quite cute. You could even use them as door stoppers.



Last weekend the cousins all gathered around where the sun sets and the moon hangs. It's where all the magic happens: Grandma's House. They got to put together gingerbread houses for Christmas.

YUM!!! YUM!!! YUM!!!

That was a great day for the kids. They got to hang out all together at Grandma's house. Afterward, we took the kids to the movies. After the movies the girls got to spend the night with their cousins.

FUN!!! FUN!!! FUN!!!

New Choices

The definition of insanity is doing the exact same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. No, you're not insane. But it sometimes feels that way when nothing changes despite your tenacious efforts. Harnessing a keen awareness of your present moment and trying a new approach can feel awkward and unnatural, given your past experiences. If you know yourself to be a people pleaser and one who never rocks the boat, this makes it difficult to imagine taking a different approach. The history of your experience is powerful and can dominate your reactions, but it is not necessarily relevant to the here and now. So, just because someone once intimidated you into believing that you had nothing important to say and that you should keep quiet and maintain peace at all costs, that doesn't mean it's true now. It wasn't true then either, but children don't really have a choice. It was not your fault. You may have done the best you could as a child, but you can make new choices as an adult.

H/T: Disarming the Narcissist

December 10, 2012

Everything Merry and Bright


Wishing you everything
merry and bright
through Christmas 
and the coming year. 

Sound the Alarm!!!


I'm not gonna lie...
I felt like I was going to hurl when it was all over. 
I can't believe I made it to 400 calories burned in 30 min.
I told myself, "See Angela...you can do it!!!"
I was hauling ass! 
GO ME! :)

Marianne Williamson Quote