November 30, 2012
November 29, 2012
Grateful for Books and the ability to read them. Kinsley is to my left reading: How the Grinch Stole Christmas. Fiona is to my right reading: Confectionately Yours ~ Taking the Cake. I am in the middle of them reading: Disarming the Narcissist. Variety and togetherness is definitely the spice of life!
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Some of us would rather face a month of Mondays than a single holiday. The worst are those, like Thanksgiving, that are supposed to deliver enough family warmth to carry us through the rest of the year. How shamed and resentful we feel when it seems that everyone else is going "over the river and through the woods to Grandmother's house" while we're eating a baloney sandwich in front of the TV.
The fact is that many of us do not have loving, welcoming families. We don't want to go home for Thanksgiving. But that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with us. We aren't less worthy than people who come from healthier families. And it doesn't mean that we have no reason to give thanks, either. The baloney is of our own choosing; we could pop a little turkey into the oven if we wanted to. Invite a friend. Talk and laugh.
Depression over the holidays is understandable but not inevitable. Those who have the heart to celebrate will celebrate. They'll bow their heads in prayerful gratitude, mindful of the blessings they have received, rather than those they haven't. At the end of the day, they'll feel good because they chose to have a good day. We'll get what we choose, too.
How I handle the holidays is a test of emotional maturity.
H/T: Believing In Myself
November 23, 2012
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Everyday circumstances await the content of character to determine if this moment will be a golden renaissance or a dark age. Choosing is our privilege as well as our responsibility. Whether we want it or not, the pen is in our hand.
My self-esteem rides on the roles I assign myself.
November 20, 2012
- Self-absorbed (acts like everything is all about him or her)
- Entitled (makes the rules; breaks the rules)
- Demeaning (puts you down, bullyish)
- Demanding (of whatever he or she wants)
- Distrustful (suspicious of your motives when you're being nice to him or her)
- Perfectionistic (rigidly high standards~his or her way or no way)
- Snobbish (believes he or she is superior to you and others; gets bored easily)
- Approval seeking (craves constant praise and recognition)
- Unempathic (uninterested in understanding your inner experience, or unable to do so)
- Unremorseful (cannot offer a genuine apology)
- Compulsive (gets overly consume with details and minutiae)
- Addictive (cannot let go of bad habits; uses them to self-soothe)
- Emotionally detached (steers clear of feelings)
When faced with a difficult decision, we have an unfortunate tendency to focus on the "before" rather than the "after." The prize the decision will win for us seems shadowy and vague, while the pain of making the decision is just as real and immediate as a screaming toothache!
New life has never come into this world without labor. We need to remember this the next time a painful decision must be made. Certainly it will be wrenching to give up an addiction of one kind or another~but think of the freedom we're gaining! If we decide to go back to church or school, we'll probably feel awkward and out of place for awhile, but soon we'll be full-fledged members of a new community.
Deciding to try anything new may conjure up feeling of fear and self-pity. But self-confidence waits on just the other side of the door. Sometimes we have to take a mighty leap just to keep going forward.
The labor of birth is soon forgotten in the joy of new life.
H/T: Believing In Myself
November 19, 2012
November 18, 2012
H/T: Tina of One Mom's Battle
There is not a single University in this world that could stand up to the wisdom and knowledge I have attained through my own life experiences. When I read this post today all I could think of was: Right On Tina!!!
I was supposed to read that today. I believe it's what God wanted me to see because college has been on my mind a lot. My prayer lately has been geared more towards timing and doing what God would have me do as part of what He has planned for me.
It doesn't really matter what society has to say and you can bet that I have seen many educated buffoons lately and am forever grateful that I am not one of them.
My identity doesn't begin and end with my occupation.
November 17, 2012
Today I am grateful for all things Psychology. Over the last two years I have learned a lot about Flying Monkeys, Gaslighting, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Sociopathy (not to be confused with Psychopathy), Scapegoats, and Triangulation.
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H/T: Streams In the Desert
November 9, 2012
My sweet cousin Debbie let me know that yesterday was my Greek Name Day!! She wished me a Happy Name Day!! If I could hug her and kiss her through my computer I would. It's been a long time since anyone wished me a Happy Name Day. Thank you cousin for wishing me a Happy Name Day!! I will celebrate it tonight with Don, Dan and Kim!!
Σας αγαπώ πολύ πολύ πολύ πολύ! ♥
Self-love often wears a mask of false humility behind which we exaggerate our own importance, and justify the wrongs we do to others. True humility comes from love of self, which is the realization of ourselves as we really are.
Resolve to be thyself and know that he who finds himself loses his misery. ~Matthew Arnold
Everywhere we go we find good apples and bad apples. There are negative people who for many reasons walk a low road themselves and invite us to travel the same path. Because they don't expect clear weather or good road conditions, they never find them. Chuckholes are what they know and chuckholes are what they get. As long as we walk with them, we travel under the same conditions.
There are also positive people, who for equally varied reasons, have chosen to walk the high road. They, too, find pretty much what they expect to find as they mosey along. Mostly they get sunny days, straight routes, and interesting experiences along the way. They don't expect to run into problems they can't handle, so for the most part they don't. Walking in their company gives us the same kind of trip.
We can join either caravan we want to. As long as we're alive we're traveling one road or the other. Shall we define the journey in terms of sprained ankles and lost luggage, or in terms of progress and adventure? The choice would seem not too hard to make.
The quality of my journey is largely defined by the quality of my companions.
H/T: Believing In Myself
1 Corinthians 15:33 New International Version (NIV) 33 Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
November 8, 2012
Who's gonna watch Dr. Phil with me? Today's programming is going to be about maternal narcissism. Should be very interesting. I read Dr. Karyl McBride's book about a month ago and it totally blew me away!
November 7, 2012
H/T: Domestic Divapalooza: I Love You Nebraska!!!
November 5, 2012
We’re excited to announce that Dr. McBride was called to be the expert on the upcoming Dr. Phil Show that airs this Thursday, November 8th. The title of the show is Moms Who Hate Their Own Children. Dr. Phil discusses maternal narcissism and endorses the book: Will I Ever Be Good Enough? We are grateful to Dr. Phil for this further education about maternal narcissism and it is our hope that the help and resources reach more and more daughters out there. Tune in on Thursday and let us know your thoughts!
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Find out more about maternal narcissism on Dr. McBride’s website
I will be tuning in so I can learn more about maternal narcissism.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder = NPD
- Chronic grandiosity (manifesting in unrelenting drive for success, power, love, beauty, brilliance)
- Fantasies of grandeur
- Strong need for being admired
- Lack of not only sensitivity to other's needs, but to others as anything other than a means to their own satisfaction (to be seen as a special case, where the rules do not apply to himself)
- Feelings of entitlement
- Exaggerated accomplishments
- Need to be larger than life
- Feelings of rage when confronted with self-absorption, revealing underlying sense of unimportance, emptiness, lack, fragility
- Secret feelings of unworthiness or imposter syndrome
- Appearance of icyness when confronted, indifference
- Unwillingness, inability to empathize
- Envy of others' success
- Exploitation of others
- Often with an extreme adversion to aging
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. ~James 3:13-16
November 4, 2012
On November 6, the day before my 94th birthday, our nation will hold one of the most critical elections in my lifetime. We are at a crossroads, and there are profound moral issues at stake. I strongly urge you to vote for candidates who support the biblical definition of marriage between a man and a woman, protect the sanctity of life, and defend our religious freedoms. The Bible speaks clearly on these crucial issues. Please join me in praying for America, that we will turn our hearts toward God. ~Billy Graham
If this self-searching reveals only that we are disgruntled because we feel we deserve a better car, a bigger house or more money, we must dig still deeper for the real cause. Is it envy of others? Is it our inability to enjoy fully what we do have? Do we, in defense of our own shortcomings, look for excuses to blame others?
"It really adds up to this: that we're not satisfied with ourselves, and we can certainly do something about that."