In abusive relationships, threats and controlling behavior often occur by phone or over the internet. On occasion, your partner will even admit to the abuse or an element of it in a message or online post. You may be hesitant to report this type of unwanted contact or even recognize it as abuse, but it counts in a court of law.
Digital evidence is often fleeting and can be deleted, accidentally or intentionally, very easily. For this reason, it's important to secure evidence quickly:
- Print out all emails that contain any evidence or information about the incident. Make sure the printout includes the sender, recipient, date and time.
- If possible, print out text messages. If not, take a picture of the cell phone displaying the message, contact information, date and time.
- If possible, print out your call log. If not, take a picture of the cell phone displaying the contact information, date and time.
- Print screen shots of social networking sites that contain evidence, such as admissions of abuse, threats of violence or pictures that you didn't consent to. Remember to check both your and your partner’s site.
- Record voicemails onto a digital recorder and include the time and date of the message.
Try to save all future, abusive electronic communications using these same methods.
Don't ignore abuse.
Ask for help.
You CAN do this.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline