September 29, 2011

Home Sick From School

Fiona is sick. She’s got fever. She’s puked. She’s been instructed to stay home from school today and tomorrow.

This morning she woke up not feeling well. She had a low-grade fever of about 98. I called the school and let them know she wouldn’t be in today due to fever.

Later on in the morning her fever went up to 99. I called the doctor’s office and they were able to squeeze her in even though our family doctor would not be there.

At the doc’s office they took her temp again and this time it was 101. Yup, her fever is sky rocketing.

Her lungs did not sound all that great so they had chest x-rays done. Her tonsils did not look all that great so they had swabbed her throat and prescribed some meds for her to take just in case.

The doc’s theory was that she would go ahead and treat her for strep even though her test results were negative. That way, if in the next 48 hours the culture grew into strep she would already be set.

In the meantime, Fiona has puked her brains out and her fever has not subsided. If she continues to have fever through to tomorrow I’m supposed to take her back to see the doctor.

I hope Fiona feels better soon.

Drill Sergeant Parents


Other parents are like drill sergeants. These, too, love their children. They feel that the more they bark and the more they control, the better their kids will be in the long run. “These kids will be disciplined,” the drill sergeant says. “They’ll know how to act right.” Indeed, they are constantly told what to do.

When drill sergeant parents talk to children, their words are often filled with putdowns and I-told-you-so’s. These parents are into power! If children don’t do what they’re told, drill sergeant parents are going to – doggone it all – make them do it.

Kids of drill sergeant parents, when given the chance to think for themselves, often make horrendous decisions – to complete consternation and disappointment of their parents. But it makes sense. These kids are rookies in the world of decisions. They’ve never had to think – the drill sergeant took care of that. The kids have been ordered around all of their lives. They’re as dependent on their parents when they enter the real world as the kids of helicopter parents.

Both of these types of parents send messages to their children – all in the name of love – about what they think their kids are capable of. The message the helicopter parents sends to the child is, “You are fragile and can’t make it without me.” The drill sergeant’s message is, “You can’t think for yourself, so I’ll do it for you.”

While both of these parental types may successfully control the children in the early years, they have thrown major obstacles into the kids’ path once they hit the “Puberty Trail.” Helicopter children become adolescents unable to cope with outside forces, unable to think for themselves or handle their own problems. Drill sergeant kids, who did a lot of saluting when they were young, will do a lot of saluting when teenagers. But the salute is different – a raised fist or a crude gesture involving the middle finger.


Hat Tip: Parenting With Love And Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

Helicopter Parents


Some parents think love means rotating their lives around their children. They are helicopter parents. They hover over and rescue their children whenever trouble arises. They’re forever running lunches and permission slips and homework assignments to school; they’re always pulling their children out of jams; not a day goes by when they’re not protecting little junior from something – usually from a learning experience the child needs or deserves. As soon as their children send up an SOS flare, helicopter parents, who are hovering nearby, swoop in and shield the children from teachers, playmates, and other elements that appear hostile.

While today these “loving” parents may feel they are easing their children’s path into adulthood, tomorrow the same children will be leaving home and wasting the first eighteen months of their adult life, flunking out of college or meandering about “getting their heads together.” Such children are unequipped for the challenges of life. Their learning opportunities were stolen from them in the name of love.

The irony is that helicopter parents are often viewed by others as model parents. They feel uncomfortable imposing consequences. When they see their children hurting, they hurt too. So they bail them out.

But the real world does not run on the bail-out principle. Traffic tickets, overdue bills, irresponsible people, crippling diseases, taxes – these and other normal events of adult life usually do not disappear because a loving benefactor bails us out. Helicopter parents fail to prepare their kids to meet that kind of world.


Hat Tip: Parenting With Love And Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

Ineffective Parenting Styles

I don’t want to deter you from buying this book BUT I do want to emphasize a part of this book that caught my attention early on and kept me reading.

I am sharing this portion of the book with you because these ineffective parenting styles are destructive. There were bits and pieces of these two styles that I could see in myself as well as in my husband. Thankfully, we took this portion of the book as constructive criticism and made a few very important changes with which we have no regrets.

The ineffective parenting styles are:

Helicopter Parents & Drill Sergeant Parents.

The next couple of posts will touch on those two styles of parenting. If you see yourself in either of those descriptions then you may benefit from this book.

If you feel that your parenting style doesn’t fall in either of those categories OR that your ideas on parenting supersede anything that anyone could ever point out to you then this book may still be for you.

There is no such thing as the perfect parent and it’s never too late to learn something new whether your child is 5 years old or 17 years old.

It’s never too late to adjust your views on parenting.

Parenting With Love And Logic

This is the book I’m reading: Parenting With Love And Logic. Teaching Children Responsibility by Foster Cline, M.D. & Jim Fay.

This book was recommended to us by our family counselor when our oldest was in junior high. This book has been tremendous in guiding us to make better choices with our children while we still have the opportunity to do so.

I decided it was time to pull it back out, blow off the dust and read it all over again.

I will be posting the stuff that stands out to me as I am reading. Small snippets will be italicized to show that I borrowed it from the book.

I may choose to write about how certain aspects of this book affected my own parenting style. Feel free to chime in by leaving a comment. If you are unable to leave a comment you can find my e-mail address within my blogger profile. Write me and let me know if the commenting form is not working for you.

Parenting with love and logic is all about raising responsible kids. It’s a win-win philosophy. Parents win because they love in a healthy way and establish effective control over their kids, without resorting to the anger and threats that will haunt them later through rebellious teenage behavior. Kids win because at an early age they learn responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems. Thus they acquire the tools for coping with the real world.

Parents and kids can establish a rewarding relationship built on love and trust in the process. What a deal! Parenting with love and logic puts the fun back in parenting.

September 28, 2011

Exercising Update

If you were looking for me on LoseIt.com – I am no longer a member. If you were looking for me at the gym – I am no longer a member.

I’m on a hunt to check out another journal-type of web site where I can track my progress. If I find something significant to try I will let you know. If you have any suggestions other than LoseIt.com – holla at me!

One of the reason I stopped LoseIt.com is because I became bored with it and it was tedious. I really need the social networking aspect of it to be lively in order for me to continue participating in something like that.

I was connected to wonderful people but at the end of the day everyone seemed to slip off the exercise wagon at the same time – and well – it got rather lonely. So I left.

I also canceled our local gym – for lots and lots of different reasons I’d rather not really get into at this time as to do so won’t really change anything. I may get back into a gym at another time but for right now I’m on a gym break. I’m on a gym break and the kids are on a swim/gym break.

We are staying active in other ways and the kids are really digging their bikes and scooters at the moment while the weather is still good.

Besides LoseIt.com – what are some other social networking sites geared to tracking exercise progress? I’d love to hear from you on that.

In the meantime I am back to exercising but am doing so from home. I’ve got free weights, techniques I learned from the gym, and a treadmill. We’ll see how I do.

A Wise Child Loves Discipline

A wise child loves discipline, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.

~Proverbs 13:1

Train Children In the Right Way

Train children in the right way and when old, they will not stray.

~Proverbs 22:6

September 27, 2011

10 On Tues: Stinky Butt Poo-Poo Head!


1. I wish my next door neighbors would stop parking their vehicles in front of my house. It’s such an eye sore. Right now they have no vehicles in their driveway or in front of their house. Seriously?

2. I don’t understand why our health insurance provider keeps asking us if we have a secondary health plan. If we had a secondary health plan we would be using it and they would know about it. What a waste of paper to ask us over and over again to select “Yes” or “No” when they already have the answer:


3. I found this in the Sam’s Club parking lot yesterday…LOL!!


4. It’s such a beautiful day today here in Omaha. The sun is shining, it’s not too hot, not too cool and the breeze is just right. It’s so nice out the locusts are singing.

5. I found my workout groove yesterday. I’ve been out of it for about a month now and can feel the fat redistributing itself and piling back on. I’m not going to let that happen. When we got back from having dinner out and running errands I took the dog for a mile or so walk/run through our neighborhood while Don bathed the girls and got them ready for bed. After tucking the girls in I turned on the TV in the basement and went at it on the treadmill doing sprints on the RHOBH commercials. During programming I did crunches, arms, and squats. Today I’m only slightly sore which tells me I probably need to kick it up a notch.

6. How do you like all those new Facebook changes? My photographs are set to “friends only” but now with the new changes when you tag someone it opens up your picture to all the friends of the person that you tagged too. That’s not okay with me. Would something like that be okay with you?


7. Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent-free in your head. Sometimes you just have to stop thinking about the person that you’re mad at all at once and realize that who they are comes with limitations you have no control over. If you lower your expectations then it will be easier to blow off your disappointment.

8. An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned to her and said, "Do you want to talk? Flights go quicker if you strike up a conversation with your fellow passenger." The little girl, who had just started to read her book, replied to the total stranger, "what would you want to talk about?" "Oh, I don't know," said the atheist. "How about why there is no god, or no heaven or hell, or no life after death?" as he smiled smugly. "OK," she said. "Those could be interesting topics but let me ask you a question first. A horse, a cow, and a deer all eat the same stuff - grass. Yet a deer excretes little pellets, while a cow turns out a flat patty, but a horse produces clumps. Why do you suppose that is?" The atheist, visibly surprised by the little girl's intelligence, thinks about it and says, "Hmm, I have no idea." To which the little girl replies, "do you really feel qualified to discuss why there is no god, or no heaven or hell, or no life after death, when you don't know crap?

9. You'll freak when you see the new facebook. I'm almost afraid to look. Have you looked yet?

10. Now that I’ve found my workout groove again it will be interesting to see if I can get the rest of this weight on my body gone. The next time Lauren sees me I want her to look at me and notice that I’ve lost weight right off the bat. I’ve lost twenty-five pounds since the beginning of my weight-loss journey. I’d like to lose twenty-five to thirty more. I know I can do it. I just have to keep working at it.

Taking Her Oath



I will always remember Tuesday, September 20, 2011 as long as I live. That’s the day my daughter took her oath and shipped off to Parris Island, South Carolina.

I’ll never forget what Major Benjamin B. Rex said, “Always do what’s right even when no one is looking.”

I'm a PROUD parent of a U.S. Marine Recruit!!!

For the Love of Sisters



Lauren’s last meal as a civilian was Subway “Eat Fresh” as Kinsley would say. Her recruiters drove her and a few others to the hotel where she would be staying at the night before she took her oath and shipped out. At first I thought I would be driving her but the recruiters insisted that they wanted to check her in. That’s understandable.

Once the girls were out of school we came home, packed up their swim suits and off we went to Lauren’s hotel so they could hang out with their big sister one more time before she left. They got about 90 minutes alone with her before her friends started showing up to say goodbye.

This was pretty hard on Fiona but at least they got to spend some time with her doing what they love before she leaves. On the way home Fiona insisted that we eat Subway “Eat Fresh” just like Lauren. They also wanted their hair in a bun for bed time. 

September 23, 2011

Special Family Dinner

Even though it was short notice all of our family came over to our house last Saturday night for a special family dinner and to spend some time with Lauren before she shipped out. She’s going to be gone for 13 weeks and we wanted to make sure we sent her off knowing how much we all love her, support her and our proud of the decision she has made.

We cooked all her favorite foods: My Spaghetti, My Spanakopita, Her Dad's Taco Pie, Her Aunt Kim’s Chocolate Chip Cookies, Her Uncle Dan’s Smoked Chicken and Her Grandma’s Butter Horn Rolls.

Lauren’s Aunt Kim’s family came to show their love and support too. Here are some of my favorite pictures that I snapped from our evening together.


Lauren and Her Dad


Lauren and Her Uncle Dan


Lauren and Her Cousins


Lauren and Her Sisters


Me and My Girls


Lauren and Her Aunt Kim


Lauren and Her Grandmother


Let's not forget Uncle Brian!

My Blood Draw

Last Thursday I was feeling pretty BLAH and decided I’d better take myself to the doctor. I’ve been having issues lately and it was time to rule stuff out.

With all the UTI stuff going on in our house I was a bit paranoid that I might have a UTI due to the fact that it felt like I was living in my bathroom. Turns out that can happen when you are drinking lots of water.

My urinalysis came back NEGATIVE.

While at the doctor we decided it has been awhile since my last blood draw to monitor my Thyroid.

For those that don’t know this about me I am Hypothyroid and have had it since spring 2006. But, my thyroid wasn’t just a little bit off it was a full blown HASHIMOTOS off the charts autoimmune Hypothyroidism.

I’ve been on 100 MCG of Synthroid every single day ever since the diagnosis which seems to be keeping everything in check. I just have to stay on top of my blood draws and take myself in to see the doc whenever I’m feeling BLAH.

My left arm got poked. My right arm got poked. They couldn't get any of my veins to cooperate. Finally my finger got poked. Facebook pokes are definitely taken for granted and I've learned to appreciate them more.

Turns out my TSH result is 2.0 which is good because the range they are looking for is between .48 and 5.90.

My Free T4 result is 1.3 which is also good because the range they are looking for is between .8 and 1.7.

Overall my levels check was NORMAL.

YAY!!!

Vesicoureteral Reflux Update


Kinsley’s VCU test at Children’s Hospital last week was successful. Kinsley did wonderfully. She didn't even flinch or cry. I got to watch the monitor in the back of the room while the test was being done and her Dad stood by her side holding her hand.

I just kept telling Kinsley all week how strong and brave she is. I was worried she was going to lose it with the tube insertion but she did really well. She squeezed her Dad’s hand really hard and turned into my neck. She did so well throughout and we didn’t hear a peep out of her.

I was very impressed with Children's Hospital. They had an educator hanging out with us to talk about the procedure, showed Kinsley on a doll what they were going to do, showed us pictures in a book, and had Kinsley point to the pictures. Kinsley was well informed about how this procedure would work.

Inside the room the educator blew bubbles with her, read her a story, and talked about the test some more. I could not have asked for a better experience considering how invasive this particular test is. I am pleased with how it all turned out.

We had our follow-up with the urologist two days later to discuss the renal ultrasound results. When we went in they checked her urine again but this time there was no UTI. What a relief. Her bladder and both her kidneys are good to go, too.

Kinsley doesn’t have Vesicoureteral Reflux!!!

It really means a lot to me that all of you prayed for us.

Thank You!!!

How EXCITING!

Last week around this time I got three back-to-back phone calls from Lauren letting me know the Marines called her up early and she ships out on Tuesday. It’s been a whirlwind ever since.

I look back on the week and can’t even believe how much has happened and how busy we were preparing for Tuesday. We had A LOT to accomplish in 4 days.

Lauren has been a member of the Delayed Entry Program since June. In order to depart for recruit training she had to pass everything so she was more than ready to receive that phone call last Friday.

She was originally scheduled to ship out February 2012 but because someone in Iowa couldn’t pass their tests she got to fill that spot.

How EXCITING!

September 16, 2011

Shipping Out Next Week ♥ ♥ ♥



Our daughter Lauren ships out for boot camp next week. So many emotions are swirling around our hearts. We are proud of you Ree! A few verses come to mind as I’m thinking about all of this: Zephaniah 3:17, Romans 8:38-39, Philippians 4:12-13…we always pray over you Ree. You’re gonna do Great! ♥ ♥ ♥

September 13, 2011

I Have a Prayer Request ♥


Kinsley is having a renal ultrasound and a VCGU at Children’s Hospital tomorrow afternoon. They want to run these tests so they can rule out Vesicoureteral Reflux. They just want to make sure that Kinsley isn’t pushing her UTI up to her Kidneys when she urinates. The VCGU is not going to be comfortable for her. I’m hoping and praying that she makes it through these tests without too much trouble or pain. It would be even better if she winds up with no reflux whatsoever.

10 On Tues

HPV & Politics ~Enjoy!

September 10, 2011

I am proud of them for that


This is a picture of my daughter and her boyfriend. They have been together off and on for awhile now. Have I always approved of this relationship?

Yes and No.

Taylor spent a lot of time with our family for the first year of their relationship and we really liked him – A LOT.

Fast forward through the stuff I promised I would not hold on to because I don’t want to be that person that hangs on to grudges and UN-forgiveness...

Today these young people are really trying to do something positive for themselves and their country. I am proud of them for that.

I just want Lauren and Taylor to know whether they are in a relationship together or not that we always wish the best for them.

September 9, 2011

Homesick



So many people have gone to be with the LORD.
As the song says: In Christ there are NO goodbyes...♥...In Christ there is no end...♥

September 8, 2011

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The Illegal Immigrant

The illegal immigrant working on my neighbor’s house just raided our vegetable garden. He was sneaking himself some cucumbers. I stepped outside and asked him what he was doing. He said something in Spanish to me. I told him, “Go ahead. You can take it.” I’m frustrated. My heart breaks. Are these people going to hurt me? Are they hungry? What else was I supposed to say? I wanted him to know he could take it BUT why do you have to steal it?

Urinal Reflux & Kidney Stuff

I talked to our Urologist’s nurse yesterday to find out if we should have been collecting Kinsley’s urine in the hat. We have been using this white “hat” that can be latched into place on the toilet so we could collect Kinsley’s urine with ease. (Those urine cups are too small!)

I started thinking about the whole “clean catch” concept and it got me thinking about whether or not we had been collecting her urine properly. It turns out that collecting her urine right from the get go in the hat is fine as long as we were wiping her from front to back with the wet wipe. (We were!)

She went on to explain that older ladies use the hat as do younger girls and that it’s completely fine to collect the urine in the hat. It makes things easy on everyone. She also said that it would not have made a difference what they were seeing in Kinsley’s urine sample.

I asked her if she thought Children’s Hospital would let us both be in the room with Kinsley when she has her Renal Ultrasound and VCUG. She seemed to think that they would only let one of us go back there. If that’s the case I can tell you that it’s going to be hard trying to decide who will go back with Kinsley. I would imagine we will let her choose who she wants to go back with her.

I’m actually going to call the Radiology department at Children’s Hospital to ask more questions about this renal ultrasound and to find out what the deal is with who can be in the room with Kinsley during the VCUG. When it comes to this sort of thing I need to hear it from the horse’s mouth how things are going to go down.

I did ask the Urologist’s nurse if there was anything that they can give Kinsley to take the edge off because this VCUG she has to go through is not going to be pleasant. I shudder just thinking about it. The other day I was discussing it with my girlfriend and thinking about it made me feel like I was going to faint or pass out. Poor Kinsley! She did tell me they have some sort of numbing gel that they may opt to use. I hope so!

If Kinsley winds up having this urinal reflux to her kidneys we will see how severe it is. Apparently if it’s not too bad sometimes kids can grow out of it but it requires monitoring. From what my girlfriend was telling me there are also medicines with lots of side effects that can help but apparently we don’t want Kinsley to have to take those for too long. Then there is surgery if it winds up being bad. The surgery is even more invasive than the VCUG test.

I am hoping and praying that Kinsley doesn’t have urinal reflux at all. My girlfriend was telling me that 33% of siblings who have this issue wind up having the same thing so I would imagine we will have to get some urine samples from Fiona to make sure she doesn’t have this problem. If Kinsley does wind up having urinal reflux to her kidneys I hope and pray it’s low grade so that she doesn’t have to have surgery.

September 6, 2011

10 On Tues


1. I will try to post something as much as possible in September but it won’t be every single day like it was last month.

2. This month I will be more focused on reuniting with my workout Mojo. I need to get back into a routine. More importantly it needs to be right up there with my coffee consumption.

3. September will be a month where I tackle more projects around the house and purge our “stuff”.

4. I’m excited about getting back into our AWANA program. Both girls are in Sparks this year and as it turns out I will get to be Kinsley’s Sparks leader.

5. Next time someone says “can you hold” when I call I’m gonna tell them [8] "NO".

6. Too many people have died this year. I’m ready to be free of death for awhile. Some deaths have been more tragic than others. No matter how a loved one dies it’s missing them that hurts the most.

7. Kinsley has to have some tests done at Children’s Hospital on the 14th. Say a little prayer that the doctors will find that she is absolutely going to be okay.

8. The fires down in Texas are out of control. I am praying that they will get A LOT of rain soon. So many people have lost their homes because of these wildfires.

9. I would like to pray for those who have lost a loved one this year. On top of that prayer I would also like to pray that justice is served for those who thought they could take someone’s life by force and get away with it.

10. I’m also praying for the people in this country who voted for Obama last election that they are paying attention to what he has done and is doing. Is our nation better off today than it was three years ago? My answer: [9] NO!

September 4, 2011

No More


I lift up my eyes to the hills - where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.

~Psalm 121:1-2

He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.

~Revelation 21:4

7.) no more death

September 3, 2011

Vesicoureteral Reflux


Kinsley is being checked for Vesicoureteral Reflux this month at Children’s Hospital. She has to have a Renal Ultrasound and VCGU procedure. Has anyone been through this with their kids? If so, what advice do you have for me? Hope to hear from my health care peeps too. Please keep Kinsley in your prayers.