March 30, 2011

Facebook Places

Places I check in to - Do you use this? If so, how do you work it and why? What are your preferred settings for this and why? Thanks in advance for your input.

March 29, 2011

10 On Tues: Sociopaths

1. A sociopath has something wrong with his conscience.

2. Either he doesn't have one, or it's severely fragmented or corrupt.

3. Today, politically correct psychologists often call this a character disorder, typically defined as a condition in which a person doesn't want to take responsibility for his own actions and life.

4. As with any psychological disorder, there are varying degrees to which a person is affected.

5. It's almost incomprehensible and beyond painful to think of LOVED ONES in these terms.

6. Yet some of us must.

7. Sociopaths only care about fulfilling their own needs and desires-selfishness and egocentricity to the extreme.

8. Everything and everybody are mentally twisted around in their minds as objects to be used to get what they want.

9. Antisocial personality disorder (abbreviated APD or ASPD) is characterized by the disordered individual's disregard for social rules and norms, impulsive behavior, and indifference to the rights and feelings of others.

10. As Christians we understand Satan's ability to corrupt and destroy a human life.

Hat Tip: Setting Boundaries with Our Adult Children

Do you know people like that?

March 28, 2011

Wall Drug, Badlands National Park and the Mitchell Corn Palace

On the way home we drove through Wall Drug, South Dakota. We didn’t know anything about Jackalopes until we saw the signs for them.

Apparently Wall Drug is known for their free ice water too. I wonder if the ice is free if you order a Makers Mark with it. Here in Omaha if you are out with friends and decide to sip on Makers Mark you will get charged for the ice that goes with your drink. It’s a good thing I don’t fancy Makers Mark.

The Flying Jackalope seems to be fairly prevalent around these parts. One of these days I’d like to travel back to South Dakota and do some Jackalope hunting. I wonder how long it takes the Jackalope to grow its feathers for flying.

Driving through Badlands National Park is a must-see-and-do while you’re in South Dakota. You will not be disappointed even on a cloudy day like the one we had.

S P E C T A C U L A R ! ! !

It’s Official! Now the girls are Junior Park Rangers for Badlands National Park as well as Mount Rushmore. They had a blast working on their booklets, answering the questions, watching the movies, as well as taking their Junior Park Rangers Oath in order to get their badges. Not only was the trip fun and enjoyable but it was educational too. Fiona even remembered to bring back some post cards to share with her classroom and give to her teacher.

On the way home we swung through Mitchell to check out their Corn Palace. We didn’t have time to go inside. We’ll be sure and hit it up the next time we travel to South Dakota. I am hoping to get back up Crazy Horse Mountain for their annual volksmarch up the mountain in June. It’s the one and only time you can get close to the face at the top of the mountain. I would love to participate in that one. I would also love to see Bear Country USA. We didn’t have a chance to drive through that park because it doesn’t open up until May. I will say that there are some perks to being up on Mount Rushmore during the off season. There are absolutely NO CROWDS. I like that!

March 27, 2011

The Importance of Faith

Jesus Reinstates Peter

When they had finished eating, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?”

“Yes, Lord,” he said, “you know that I love you.”

Jesus said, “Feed my lambs.”

John 21:15 NIV

March 24, 2011

Historic Hot Springs

Hot Springs, South Dakota is where we spent the entire day.

We swam all afternoon in naturally heated spring water.

The place we were at is over 100 years old. See how excited folks were to get their picture taken way back when?

When Don was a little boy his parents took him and his brother to Evan's Plunge. Don was pretty excited to be able to take the girls to the same place he and his brother had fun at as kids. He remembered a lot of cool things about Evan's Plunge and many of them were still there while we visited today. All day long we swam, sat in the hot tub, hit the sauna, swam some more, sat in the hot tub some more, swam, and then we hit the road to get some dinner and head back to the hotel. We are exhausted!

Saw a herd of deer and a beautiful sunset on the way back to our hotel. Tomorrow we are off to Wall Drug to check out the Jackalopes.

March 23, 2011

Crazy Horse Mountain

I’m obsessed with Crazy Horse Mountain. We went back today so we could get closer to the bottom of the mountain. Thankfully my camera has a decent zoom and I was able to capture his face.

Like the Mount Rushmore shot, we got our family photo taken. I will admit, I love Mount Rushmore and feel super patriotic about it BUT...the Crazy Horse Mountain story has captured my heart.

The lighting was a little better today so I took a second snapshot. If you are my friend on facebook you’ll see that I captured all the progress of Crazy Horse Mountain beginning in the 1940s all the way to today. There are many more pictures of some of the other things that we did today too.

This morning I woke up to the news that Elizabeth Taylor had died. That’s sad but I know she lived a full life. She was so beautiful. This photograph is how I will always remember Elizabeth Taylor the most.

Today’s Highlights

Mount Rushmore and Crazy Horse Mountain were the highlights of the day. We are headed back to Crazy Horse Mountain in the morning so we can get closer to the face on the mountain. What an incredible story. I took 167 pictures today and posted them all on Facebook. If you’re my friend on Facebook...EnJOY.

March 22, 2011

10 On Tues: Painful Exercise Part 2

Painful Exercise Continued

11.) Accepting blame: Does my child blame other people, adverse circumstances, or even God for his woes....or does he fully accept his part in creating the life he now lives?

12.) Genuineness: Is my child transparent about who he is....or does he wear masks? Does he turn on the charm when necessary to get his way?

13.) Optimistic: Is my child generally optimistic? If so, is his optimism grounded in reality or based on unreasonable suppositions? Or is he generally pessimistic about the future?

14.) Trusting: Does my child find it easy to trust others, or is he generally suspicious of others?

15.) Sexually responsible: Is he sexually responsible or does he engage in many short-term sexual relationships with different partners? Has he fathered a child for whom he must be responsible? Has his promiscuity resulted in abortions?

16.) Ambition: Does my child show any evidence of wanting to be a successful adult? Does he set goals and work toward them...or is he wondering through life aimlessly, with no desire to succeed in life?

17.) Self-control: Is my child able to control his actions when he wants to? Or does he fall easily when tempted? Is his behavior often reckless?

18.) Builds successful relationships: Is my child able to build and maintain healthy relationships with other people? Or are most of his relationships short-term? Does he have a hard time making commitments in relationships?

19.) Never abusive: Does my adult child resort to physical, verbal, sexual, or emotional abuse when it serves his purpose?

20.) Law-abiding: Does my adult child respect the law? Or does he bend or even break the law when it serves his purposes? Does he take pride in his ability to do so?

Hat Tip: Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children

Sound Familiar?

Painful Exercise Part 1

March 21, 2011

Wall Drug and Rapid City, SD

These two pictures were taken from my new smart phone. The first one was taken from inside of the van as we were driving towards Rapid City, South Dakota. I posted the rest of the photos on Facebook. If you’re my friend on Facebook then you’ll get to see the entire week of our spring break as it unfolds.

Spring Break

We are two hours away from our destination in South Dakota. I am stoked because I'm blogging from my brand new Verizon Wireless SMART Phone. I'm in smart phone heaven. It feels like I am ruling the air!!! We are currently flying back in time. It was 4:49 and now it's 3:49. I posted my first picture on facebook so if you're my friend you can see it. Let me know what you think! See Ya!!!

March 20, 2011

Surpassing Power

But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.

2 Corinthians 4:7-9 NIV

March 18, 2011

My Princess

This little girl warms my heart.

I Love her soooooooooooooooooooooooo much.

Her little sister worships the ground she walks on.

This little girl has the BIGGEST heart I know.

She’s always thinking about others.

When she says the prayer at dinner she always asks God to make sure people are clothed and fed.

She has a mind that remembers so much.

A heart that gets bigger day by day.

I LOVE this little girl.

She’s my PRINCESS.

March 17, 2011

Happy St. Patrick's Day!!

Did you do anything special for St. Patrick’s Day?

Scooping Poop

Fiona sent Kinsley in to tell me that she thinks she should get paid for scooping poop.

I told Kinsley to tell Fiona that her reward for scooping poop is that she gets to keep her dog.

It’s a big responsibility to have a dog and scooping poop along with walking, bathing, feeding, cuddling, and playing with your dog is all part of having a family pet.

At first I didn’t think Kinsley was going to do any of the poop scooping.

But then Fiona decided to bribe her sister and promised she could spend the night in her room tonight if she did half the job.

We don’t pay the girls to scoop poop. If they want to get paid to poop scoop they can go door to door and offer their poop scooping services.

Now the girls are outside working together and taking turns holding the bag. The poop is starting to disappear.

I think it’s nice that they are taking responsibility in caring for their dog and our environment.

This is our poop monster.

March 16, 2011

Today is John 3:16 Day

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever BELIEVES in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

John 3:16

I Love Spring

March 15, 2011

10 On Tues: Painful Exercise Part 1

The following might be a painful exercise. Carefully answer each question truthfully. YOU are doing no one, least of all your adult child, any favors by SUGAR-COATING the painful reality. If you are unable to be objective, ask someone close to the situation to help. HOWEVER, don't get angry with the person if he or she tells YOU things YOU don't want to hear.

1.) Truthfulness: Does my adult child tell me the truth about his activities? (Or have you caught him in lies on more than one occasion?)

2.) Temperament: Does my child have an even temper? Or is he prone to mood swings? Does he often display irritability, annoyance, and impatience? Does he withdraw from interaction with others?

3.) Empathetic: Is my adult child able to empathize with the hurts of others or is he most likely unaware of others' pain or unable to identify with their plight?

4.) Personality: Which word best describes my child: warm or cold? Is he often personally cold toward other people....or is warm and inviting to people he meets?

5.) Selflessness: Which word is more accurate in describing my child, "humble" or "prideful"? Is he egocentric? Cocky? Does the world revolve around him and his own desires, or is he able to give himself to others to help meet their needs?

6.) Emotionally stable: Is he able to handle his emotions maturely....or do his emotions (anger, depression, guilt) drive his actions?

7.) A healthy conscience: Is my child able to feel the appropriate guilt for his wrong actions? Or is guilt something he rarely feels or tries to rationalize away by placing blame elsewhere?

8.) Independent: Is he more independent or dependent? Does he consistently see that his needs are met through his own efforts or must he rely on others to supply his needs?

9.) Physically responsible: Does he treat his body with respect....or is he careless about his health?

10.) Responsibility: Is my child assuming full responsibility for his life? (Does he follow through on promises made? Are bills paid on time? Does he show up on time for work?)

Hat Tip: Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children

Sound Familiar?

Next Week: Painful Exercise Part 2

March 14, 2011

It's Not My Responsibility

"If, for instance, your adult child has been arrested, do NOT intervene this time. If your adult child lives at home and is involved in anything related to drugs, alcohol, crime, violence, unacceptable behavior, or any type of illegal activity whatsoever, insist on his immediate departure from your home. Call the authorities if necessary. He can choose to go to rehab or to a friend's home, or anywhere he'd like, including living on the street--whatever he decides--but it is NOT your responsibility to find somewhere for him to go. Remember, if he has broken the law, you may be considered an accessory to his crime. Calling the police will be one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do, but it may be necessary."

"If your adult child lives outside the home and is calling for money or a place to live, or is requesting (in many cases, begging) for your signature on a contract or rental agreement, do not give it to him."

Hat Tip: Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children

March 13, 2011

God Is Faithful

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. and God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

1 Corinthians 10:13

March 12, 2011

Stop Being a Wuss!

I Love Dr. Laura. She gives good advice. I stumbled upon this YouTube video and thought to myself: Oh how IRONIC! It's amazing to me that there are people out there who think it’s their job to “solve” and “fix” everything. What do I say to that? I say: STOP. STOP. STOP. STOP. STOP. Yes, if the shoe fits then you need to STOP.

Stop Meddling.
Stop Enabling.
Stop Lying.
Stop Gossiping.
Stop Making Shit up.
Stop Obsessing.
Stop the Hatefulness.
Stop Calling.
Stop Interfering.
Stop Ruining Lives.
Stop the Chaos.
Stop the Cruelty.
Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourselves.
Stop Hurting Others.
Stop Destroying.
Stop Stealing.
Stop Threatening.
Stop Making False Accusations.
Stop Talking Smack.
Stop the Abuse.
Stop the Nastiness.
Stop Being a Wuss.
Stop Making Bad Decisions.
Stop Making Poor Choices.
Stop Pointing the Finger.
Stop Passing Blame.
Stop the Stupidity.
Stop Reacting.
Stop Panicking.
Stop Being Disrespectful.
Stop Inserting Yourselves.
Stop the INSANITY.
Stop Avoiding Facts.
Stop Pretending.
Stop Perfecting.
Stop the Bitchassness.
Stop Harassing.
Stop Being Mean.
Stop Stirring the Pot.
Stop Being Two-Faced.
Stop Making Excuses.
Stop Being Assholes.
Stop Texting.
Stop Listening to Gossip.
Stop Believing Everything.
Stop Manipulating.
Stop Judging.
Stop Being Jerks.

March 11, 2011

Old and Senile

Then we'll be NEW friends! Happy Birthday

I had lunch this week with a sweet friend who remembered my birthday was in March.

Next year we’ll be able to get together for lunch while the kids are in school.

You’re the best Danielle.
Thank you for my birthday card.

March 8, 2011

10 On Tues: Suggestions for Breaking the Enabling Cycle

Gaining SANITY in the insane world of ENABLING

Suggestions for Breaking the Enabling Cycle

Just in time for 10 on Tuesday!

1.) You shall take care of your own spiritual, mental, physical, emotional, and financial health.

2.) You shall remember to express love and attention to your spouse and other family members and friends in addition to your troubled adult child.

3.) You shall not accept excuses.

4.) You shall understand that a clear definition of right and wrong is imperative for a disciplined society. There is no room for gray. Don't make excuses for what you believe.

5.) You shall make fact-based judgments without excuse and feel okay doing so.

6.) You shall uphold standards of behavior that protect your morals, values, and integrity.

7.) You shall give your adult child unconditional love and support without meddling and without money.

8.) You shall listen to music and read books that will focus your mind on God.

9.) You shall celebrate life and love as often as possible, even in times of trouble.

10.) You shall consistently practice the six steps to SANITY as outline in part 2 of this book.

Hat Tip: Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children

March 6, 2011

His Comforting Presence

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.

Isaiah 43:2-3 NIV

March 4, 2011

I Will Follow

My girls know all the words to this song and they go nuts when it comes on the radio. I love this song. It puts me in a better mood every single time I hear it no matter what is going on in our lives. As Kinsley would say, “God is Triple Dipple Good.”

March 2, 2011


“I am lucky to be what I am! Thank goodness I’m not just a clam or a ham Or a dusty old jar of sour gooseberry jam! I am what I am! That’s a great thing to be! If I say so myself, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!”

Dr. Seuss

Happy Birthday To You!

I Love My Family

My Girls are Sweet

Thank you to my sweet girls Fiona and Kinsley.

March 1, 2011

Warm Birthday Wishes

Wishing you a one of a kind day filled with good times and great memories. Happy Birthday.

Thank you to my Mother and Father-In-Law.

Lice Lice Baby!

Welcome to this week’s rendition of 10 On Tuesday!

Let’s begin:

1.) Isn’t that a lovely photograph of head-lice?

2.) The story begins with Head Lice in Our Public Schools.

3.) Here’s more on Omaha Public Schools Head Lice.

4.) We finally heard back from OPS.

5.) Apparently they are looking into their parent notification policy.

6.) Honestly, I don’t think they have a parent notification policy.

7.) When OPS does a head lice inspect OR a “healthy hair check” in the classroom they do not inform the parents that they did.

8.) I am now familiar with all the stages of the life of head lice.

9.) It’s official! I am the head lice expert!

10.) If you ever need someone to inspect your child’s head for head lice I am your woman!