December 7, 2011


Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.

~Psalm 27:14

December 6, 2011


Man has always been beset by worry, and the pressures of modern life have aggravated the problem. To men of all time Jesus said, “Take therefore no thought for the morrow . . . but seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33–34). Many of you are filled with a thousand anxieties. Bring them to Jesus Christ by faith. He will bring peace to your soul and your mind.

I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.

–Psalm 34:4

Knowing You hear me, Lord, as I talk with You brings me peace in the midst of any storm.

Hat Tip: A Thousand Anxieties

How appropriate and applicable Sunday’s Sermon was. This “Don’t Worry” theme has been popping up all around me.

I am putting my focus on Him and concentrating on what’s important to me: My Family. I don’t have time for negativity, drama, gossip or innuendo. I am busy making peace in places where I know peace will flourish.

God will do the rest because I am not in control. I can only control myself. I am not responsible for the choices other people make and will no longer allow it to rule over my life.

Do Not Worry

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

–Matthew 6:25-34

December 1, 2011

Hopelessly Entangled

If you’ve had a relationship like Sally’s or Sarah’s, you know how conflicted it makes you feel. You love but you hate. You trust but you suspect. You enjoy but you want to get away. You understand but you just can’t excuse. You embrace but you want to push back. You know you are needed but you feel abused.

You can’t put your finger on the problem. You know there is one, but if you ever bring it up with the other person, very quickly it is turned into something that is all about you and what you’ve done. You are told in so many words, “If you were different, there wouldn’t be a problem.” Your accuser works to produce guilt in you and evoke pity for himself. You are left to ponder, What can I do to make this better? I must be doing something very wrong.

Over the years, I have talked to so many people entangled in this kind of relationship. Usually they are quite candid about their own faults. They chew their fingernails or tap their feet while telling me, “I am willing to correct what I can, but for the life of me, I don’t know what to do.” They remain baffled because no matter what they do to alter their shortcomings, the relationship stays chaotic and tense. Often they assume they’re the only one in the world with a relationship that is so insane! They feel like a wart growing on the face of a smooth-complected society. They don’t want to talk about the pain because they have been told so often that they are the reason for it. They have almost come to believe it. Since they care about the difficult individual, they feel like a betrayer to mention the problem to anyone. So they keep on keeping on in hopeful desperation, always believing thing will be better tomorrow. But when their tomorrow comes, they are usually disappointed.

My heart hurts for you if you are in this kind of situation. I know how it leaves you crushed in spirit although you look intact on the outside. These things I know about you because the symptoms of a person entangled with a fool are fairly universal:

  • You can’t figure out why this relationship just can’t work.
  • You fear losing what you think you have with this person, whatever that might be (you may not be able to define it!).
  • You feel guilty for failing to find a solution to the ongoing pain.
  • You are afraid to face the truth and possible consequences. The unknown is very threatening to you.
  • You know you have to do something to change the destructive dynamics, but you don’t know what you need to do.

The reason you remain in turmoil is that you are trying to relate to someone who has some wonderful qualities mixed with a perplexing set of destructive characteristics. In the beginning you may have admired this person, but soon you found yourself mired in the chaos that seems to characterize the relationship. One minute you hear your own laughter, and you hope against hope that all is well. The next minute you’re on the defensive in response to some inane comment or emotional jab made at you by this one to whom you are trying to relate. If you protest, invariably the person denies he has said or done anything inappropriate. In a few twists of the facts, he tries to convince you that you’re a bitter person or just “oversensitive.” When you have been labeled with all other conceivable insults, there sometimes comes the appellation you hate more than any other: “crazy.” It leaves you bleeding. What can you possibly do or say to counter that one? By the time the encounter is over, you are kicking yourself for even mentioning that you have feelings.

Hat Tip: FOOL Proofing Your Life

FOOL Proofing Your Life

Many years ago Jan Silvious came and spoke at our church. It was a fabulous event, I purchased her book, stood in line for her autograph, came home and placed her book on the shelf never to be read...UNTIL yesterday.

I am still reading The Ragamuffin Gospel but recently received affirmation that I should put that book down and come back to it at a later date. FOOL Proofing Your Life was screaming at me to pick her up and R.E.A.D. Why didn’t I read this book before now?

I believe I was not supposed to read that book until now. I also believe that I’m not supposed to read The Ragamuffin Gospel until AFTER I read FOOL Proofing Your Life. Someone upstairs is looking out for me in a BIG way! Everything happens for a reason, right?

CHAPTER ONE: Raising Your Relational IQ really GRABBED my attention. I had never really thought about the quality of my relationships in an in dept way before now. This book really breaks it down and explains it detail by detail. Much of this book is bible based for those that look to God for comfort, peace and joy.

Right now I am on Chapter 3. I will admit that I am having a hard time putting this book down. My next post will be an excerpt from the book that I think you will come to appreciate.