October 27, 2011
I Lost My Keys
I lost my keys. I have no idea where they could be. The last time I had them was on Sunday after church. Between then and now I have not seen them. Strangely enough I am calm about this. This will force me to stop procrastinating and tackle picking up my house and getting some things done around here.
I have a new blog to introduce today over on Blog Mommas. I’m excited about that! If you have a blog and you’d like some new readers to find you have me list your blog in the directory. All you do is put a link up in your sidebar to “Blog Mommas” or “Blog Directory” and then I add and introduce you. It’s easy as apple pie. If you want to do a link exchange with me on any of my blogs let me know. You link me, I’ll link you and that’s how we get new readers and find new blogs.
I must say that I absolutely adore the kids in my Sparks group at church. They are all kindergarteners and very sweet. We have some neat discussions and game time is super fun. I really like being an AWANA leader…A LOT! I’ve been participating for awhile and didn’t realize how much I enjoyed it until I started working with the toddlers in Cubbies. This is my first year as a Sparks Leader. I think it’s neat how they keep the kids together with their group leaders throughout their time in their individual programs. This is Fiona’s last year and Kinsley’s first year in Sparks.
Fiona and Kinsley can spit out their verses like yesterday’s breakfast. Lately Kinsley has been a little bored with it. I think I found the solution to light a fire in her to be more excited about being prepared. I’ve borrowed two boys from the 2nd grade group to help oversee Kinsley when she is sharing her verses. It has lit a fire in her and now she anticipates being able to show those boys that she knows her verses! This is good for me because I’m her group leader and it takes the emphasis off me, her mom, being her group leader and has her looking at it differently. There’s no question that she wants me in her group and is excited and somewhat proud to have her Mom leading her team but there are moments when I think she takes the scenario for granted. The two 2nd graders helping me out are pretty excited they’ve been picked to help out in this way. They feel like they are contributing to something important, they stop running around the classroom, and I get to watch Kinsley work to be more prepared. It’s a win win for everyone!
I’m thinking of going back to blogging every day. It’s good for me. It keeps me focused and on task. Sometimes my posts might be long and sometimes not so much. Today it is LONG.
I saw something on Facebook that said, “As we grow up, we realize it becomes LESS important to have more friends and MORE important to have REAL ones.” I agree with that statement 100%. I’ve been thinking a lot about who my friends are and what makes them my friends. Friendship is a two way street where you meet in the middle. If my friends always get to talk about stuff and they’re never interested in how I’m doing or what I think about life too then what’s the point? Am I just someone that you can share with who has no opinion or am I someone who’s opinion matters? I realize there are times when it’s not necessary to interject but seriously what’s the point if there’s a breakdown in communication? Not everyone is going to see the world as I do or as you do. Friends allow one another to be who they are even if you don’t agree with their opinions or their take on situations.
You know what else? There is no such thing as the perfect parent. I am a mom to a 20 year old, soon-to-be 8 year old and soon-to-be 6 year old. I am grateful for my friends who have participated and showed a genuine interest in my kids through the good and the bad times. I never once took someone’s advice personally or as a slam on my parenting. In turn my friends knew they could come to me and I would tell them what I think and that good or bad it’s not a reflection on their parenting.
I don’t know what it is about the competiveness between moms. You know that halo on my head? It has cracks, bumps, nicks, and scrapes in it. I’m not a perfect mom. I’m not a perfect friend. I just try to be myself.
I have super close friends I can count on one hand who I expect to tell me what’s up and to never feel like they have to walk on egg shells around me. Friendship is a two way street. You take the good with the bad but you do so together. I can’t be in a friendship where I don’t get to contribute. I have a hard time going down one way streets. Eventually I have to turn off on the two-way street. Friendship is give and take. Otherwise, what’s the point? I’m not a wall. I’m not a doormat. I have feelings too. I have ideas too. It’s not personal if they don’t mesh with yours. I don’t take it personal when someone shows me something different. I am grateful to all of my friends who have offered me up parenting advice even when I didn’t ask for it. I know it’s not a dig or a criticism on my parenting or on being a Mom.
Even though I’m calm about having lost my keys I’m starting to wonder where they are. That means I have to end this very LONG post and get to work but not until I’ve introduced the next blog on Blog Mommas. See ya around.