September 7, 2010

Tough Love Isn't Always Easy

My daughter just called me from school to see if I would bring her duel enrollment form to her because she left it on the fridge and it’s the difference between $200.00 and $700.00. Today was the deadline.

First of all, this is totally her responsibility. I have signed the form days ago and one would think she would have thought to go ahead and keep it in her locker OR turn it in early BUT no - she let it sit.

The duel enrollment form is not on the fridge and her room is a pit. Unfortunately for her I had to tell her “no” and that she should be more on top of her school projects and that it’s not my issue.

She is going to be going to college soon and will have to think of these sort of things at that time. I’m not always going to be around to hold her hand. She practically rolls her eyes at me every time I ask her if she checked this OR that so I’m thinking today was the day for me to just say, “no.”

There has to be consequences for actions OR lack of acting and she’s not going to learn to take responsibility if I keep bailing her out, right? I love my daughter, she’s a smart person, she’s at the top of her class, and she has so much going for her BUT she has got to learn to stay on top of her own stuff.

January 2008

2 comments:

  1. You ROCK, mama! Financially harsh though it may be, these lessons are ESSENTIAL for kids to learn. Nothing teaches like the sting of experience, and this will remind her to be more mindful next time. The most important job a parent has is to instruct, and to impart life skills into children so they leave home as capable, productive, creative, problem-solving adults. Good on ya!
    ~Monica

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  2. Thank you so much for the encouragement Monica. You have no idea what that means to me as a parent. We can't keep on bailing our kids out or they will never learn how to stand on their own two feet.

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